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What’s the difference between miscarriage and stillbirth?

<div class="theconversation-article-body"> <p><a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/gita-mishra-286486">Gita Mishra</a>, <em><a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/the-university-of-queensland-805">The University of Queensland</a></em>; <a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/chen-liang-1356342">Chen Liang</a>, <em><a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/the-university-of-queensland-805">The University of Queensland</a></em>, and <a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/jenny-doust-12412">Jenny Doust</a>, <em><a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/the-university-of-queensland-805">The University of Queensland</a></em></p> <p>Former US First Lady Michelle Obama <a href="https://www.pbs.org/newshour/nation/michelle-obama-reveals-she-had-a-miscarriage-used-ivf-to-conceive-daughters">revealed</a> in her memoir she had a miscarriage. UK singer-songwriter and actor Lily Allen has <a href="https://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/lily-allen-shares-details-about-delivering-a-stillborn-baby/#:%7E:text=Lily%20Allen%20was%20six%20months,named%20George%20%E2%80%94%20did%20not%20survive.">gone on the record</a> about her stillbirth.</p> <p>Both miscarriage and stillbirth are sadly familiar terms for pregnancy loss. They can be traumatic life events for the prospective parents and family, and their impacts can be long-lasting. But the terms can be confused.</p> <p>Here are some similarities and differences between miscarriage and stillbirth, and why they matter.</p> <h2>Let’s start with some definitions</h2> <p>In broad terms, a miscarriage is when a pregnancy ends while the fetus is not yet viable (before it could survive outside the womb).</p> <p>This is the loss of an “intra-uterine” pregnancy, when an embryo is implanted in the womb to then develop into a fetus. The term miscarriage excludes ectopic pregnancies, where the embryo is implanted outside the womb.</p> <p>However, stillbirth refers to the end of a pregnancy when the fetus is normally viable. There may have been sufficient time into the pregnancy. Alternatively, the fetus may have grown large enough to be normally expected to survive, but it dies in the womb or during delivery.</p> <p>The Australian Institute of Health and Welfare <a href="https://www.aihw.gov.au/reports/mothers-babies/stillbirths-and-neonatal-deaths-in-australia/contents/technical-notes/definitions-used-in-reporting">defines stillbirth</a> as a fetal death of at least 20 completed weeks of gestation or with a birthweight of at least 400 grams.</p> <p>Internationally, definitions of stillbirth <a href="https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stillbirth/">vary</a> <a href="https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/misc/itop97.pdf">depending on</a> <a href="https://www.who.int/data/gho/indicator-metadata-registry/imr-details/2444">the jurisdiction</a>.</p> <h2>How common are they?</h2> <p>It is difficult to know how common miscarriages are as they can happen when a woman doesn’t know she is pregnant. There may be no obvious symptoms or something that looks like a heavier-than-normal period. So miscarriages are likely to be more common than reported.</p> <p><a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(21)00682-6/abstract">Studies</a> from Europe and North America suggest a miscarriage occurs in about one in seven pregnancies (15%). More than one in eight women (13%) will have a miscarriage at some time in her life.</p> <p>Around <a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(21)00682-6/abstract">1–2%</a> of women have recurrent miscarriages. <a href="https://miscarriageaustralia.com.au/understanding-miscarriage/recurrent-miscarriage/">In Australia</a> this is when someone has three or more miscarriages with no pregnancy in between.</p> <p>Australia has one of the lowest rates of stillbirth in the world. The rate has been relatively steady over the past 20 years at 0.7% <a href="https://www.aihw.gov.au/reports/mothers-babies/stillbirths-and-neonatal-deaths">or around</a> seven per 1,000 pregnancies.</p> <figure class="align-center zoomable"><a href="https://images.theconversation.com/files/608102/original/file-20240719-17-4ynpp.jpg?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=1000&amp;fit=clip"><img src="https://images.theconversation.com/files/608102/original/file-20240719-17-4ynpp.jpg?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;fit=clip" sizes="(min-width: 1466px) 754px, (max-width: 599px) 100vw, (min-width: 600px) 600px, 237px" srcset="https://images.theconversation.com/files/608102/original/file-20240719-17-4ynpp.jpg?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=456&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 600w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/608102/original/file-20240719-17-4ynpp.jpg?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=456&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1200w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/608102/original/file-20240719-17-4ynpp.jpg?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=456&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 1800w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/608102/original/file-20240719-17-4ynpp.jpg?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=573&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 754w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/608102/original/file-20240719-17-4ynpp.jpg?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=573&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1508w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/608102/original/file-20240719-17-4ynpp.jpg?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=573&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 2262w" alt="" /></a><figcaption></figcaption></figure> <h2>Who’s at risk?</h2> <p>Someone who has already had a miscarriage or stillbirth has an increased risk of that outcome again in a subsequent pregnancy.</p> <p>Compared with women who have had a live birth, those who have had a stillbirth have <a href="https://bmcpregnancychildbirth.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12884-021-04355-7">double the risk</a> of another. For those who have had recurrent miscarriages, the risk of another miscarriage is <a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(21)00682-6/abstract">four-fold</a> higher.</p> <p>Some factors have a u-shaped relationship, with the risk of miscarriage and stillbirth lowest in the middle.</p> <p>For instance, maternal age is a risk factor for both <a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(21)00682-6/abstract">miscarriage</a> and <a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/eclinm/article/PIIS2589-5370(23)00528-X/fulltext">stillbirth</a>, especially if under 20 years old or older than 35. Increasing age of the male is only a <a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10654-017-0237-z">risk factor</a> for stillbirth, especially for fathers over 40.</p> <p>Similarly for maternal bodyweight, women with a body mass index or BMI in the normal range have the lowest risk of <a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(21)00682-6/abstract">miscarriage</a> and <a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(15)00837-5/abstract?code=lancet-site&amp;rss=yes=">stillbirth</a> compared with those in the obese or underweight categories.</p> <p>Lifestyle factors such as smoking and heavy alcohol drinking while pregnant are also risk factors for both miscarriage and stillbirth.</p> <p>So it’s important to not only avoid smoking and alcohol while pregnant, but <em>before</em> getting pregnant. This is because early in the pregnancy, women may not know they have conceived and could unwittingly expose the developing fetus.</p> <h2>Why do they happen?</h2> <p>Miscarriage often results from chromosomal problems in the developing fetus. However, genetic conditions or birth defects <a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(15)00837-5/abstract?code=lancet-site&amp;rss=yes=">account for</a> only <a href="https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/1104720">7-14%</a> of stillbirths.</p> <p>Instead, stillbirths <a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(15)00837-5/abstract?code=lancet-site&amp;rss=yes=">often relate</a> directly to <a href="https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/1104720">pregnancy complications</a>, such as a prolonged pregnancy or problems with the umbilical cord.</p> <p><a href="https://www.nichd.nih.gov/health/topics/factsheets/pregnancyloss">Maternal health</a> at the time of pregnancy is another contributing factor in the risk of both miscarriage and stillbirths.</p> <p>Chronic diseases, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, hypothyroidism (underactive thyroid), polycystic ovary syndrome, problems with the immune system (such as an autoimmune disorder), and some bacterial and viral infections are among factors that can <a href="https://www.nichd.nih.gov/health/topics/factsheets/pregnancyloss">increase the risk</a> of miscarriage.</p> <p>Similarly mothers with diabetes, high blood pressure, and untreated infections, such as malaria or syphilis, face an <a href="https://www.nichd.nih.gov/health/topics/factsheets/stillbirth">increased risk</a> of stillbirth.</p> <p>In many cases, however, the specific cause of pregnancy loss is not known.</p> <h2>How about the long-term health risks?</h2> <p>Miscarriage and stillbirth can be <a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(21)00682-6/abstract">early indicators</a> of health issues later in life.</p> <p>For instance, women who have had recurrent miscarriages or recurrent stillbirths are at higher risk of <a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33028606/">cardiovascular disease</a> (such as heart disease or stroke).</p> <p>Our <a href="https://www.bmj.com/content/377/bmj-2022-070603.abstract">research</a> has also looked at the increased risk of stroke. Compared with women who had never miscarried, we found women with a history of three or more miscarriages had a 35% higher risk of non-fatal stroke and 82% higher risk of fatal stroke.</p> <p>Women who had a stillbirth had a 31% higher risk of a non-fatal stroke, and those who had had two or more stillbirths were at a 26% higher risk of a fatal stroke.</p> <p>We saw similar patterns in chronic obstructive pulmonary disease or COPD, a progressive lung disease with respiratory symptoms such as breathlessness and coughing.</p> <p>Our data showed women with a history of recurrent miscarriages or stillbirths were at a <a href="https://thorax.bmj.com/content/79/6/508.abstract">36% or 67% higher risk</a> of COPD, respectively, even after accounting for a history of asthma.</p> <h2>Why is all this important?</h2> <p>Being well-informed about the similarities and differences between these two traumatic life events may help explain what has happened to you or a loved one.</p> <p>Where risk factors can be modified, such as smoking and obesity, this information can be empowering for individuals who wish to reduce their risk of miscarriage and stillbirth and make lifestyle changes before they become pregnant.</p> <hr /> <p><em>More information and support about miscarriage and stillbirth is available from <a href="https://www.sands.org.au">SANDS</a> and <a href="https://www.pinkelephants.org.au">Pink Elephants</a>.</em><!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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"Devastating": MKR stars' second family heartbreak

<p><em>My Kitchen Rules</em> stars Carly Saunders and Tresna Middleton have been hit with a second devastating blow for their family, just five months after the death of their daughter. </p> <p>The couple conceived their first baby, Poppy Grace, through a <a href="https://oversixty.com.au/health/caring/mkr-stars-open-up-about-devastating-ivf-loss" target="_blank" rel="noopener">gruelling IVF journey</a>, before Poppy tragically passed away from a rare form of cancer just four months before her second birthday. </p> <p>Now, the women are continuing to fight for their perfect family and are undergoing another round of IVF. </p> <p>However, Carly and Tresna have suffered a miscarriage just weeks into the pregnancy. </p> <p>The couple shared their heartbreaking news on Instagram to update their fans who were following along with their IVF journey, saying they are "devastated". </p> <p>“Sadly, we know that miscarriage occurs in one in four pregnancies. It certainly doesn’t make living through one any easier,” Tresna wrote on the pair’s joint Instagram account on Wednesday.</p> <blockquote class="instagram-media" style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/reel/CvKM1fko_jQ/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="14"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"> </div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"> </div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"> </div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <div style="padding: 12.5% 0;"> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;"> <div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);"> </div> </div> <div style="margin-left: 8px;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;"> </div> <div style="width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);"> </div> </div> <div style="margin-left: auto;"> <div style="width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);"> </div> <div style="width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);"> </div> </div> </div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;"> </div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;"> </div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" href="https://www.instagram.com/reel/CvKM1fko_jQ/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank" rel="noopener">A post shared by Carly Tresne (@carlyandtresne)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p>“We had started to heal, we did a variety of health scans, we were fit and well and we felt as if Poppy was guiding us towards growing our family,” the post continued.</p> <p>“So we began the (IVF) process in May and on POPPY’S 2nd BIRTHDAY we found out Carly was pregnant."</p> <p>“We were over the moon and felt it was a good sign that we found out on such a special day.”</p> <p>Tresna said that it had “taken a minute to gain the strength to share where we are at”.</p> <p>“At the 11 week scan we failed to find the baby’s heartbeat. Watching the ultrasound machine scanning over Carly’s belly, frantically looking for a heartbeat was devastating,” she added.</p> <p>“Carly underwent a curette under anaesthetic in hospital on Monday. I was also going though IVF at the same time. My cycle was cancelled the same day due to my eggs being too large to be able to collect."</p> <p>“But even though we have had this set back, we will push though and continue to rise up for our precious Poppy Grace."</p> <p>“We hope that one day, our daydream of a family will come true, that Poppy will have siblings and we will feel the unconditional love of children again."</p> <p>“If this is your story too, we hope that your dream of a family will soon come true also.”</p> <p>The post was flooded with messages of condolences from their fans, while many offered messages of support for their future family. </p> <p>One person wrote, "Oh gosh, this is just so devastating to read guys. I’m so very sorry. How can life be so beautiful one minute and so unfair the next?! Wishing with everything that I’ve got that your little baby (or babies) of your dreams, are safely in your arms soon, and stay there for years to come. No couple deserves this more."</p> <p><em>Image credits: Instagram </em></p>

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Harry lays the blame for Meghan's miscarriage

<p>Prince Harry has shared a blunt accusation about who was to blame for Meghan Markle's miscarriage in July 2020. </p> <p>The Duchess of Sussex has previously spoken about the failed pregnancy while living in the US after the birth of the couple’s first child.</p> <p>Prince Harry has laid the blame for the miscarriage on on the actions of Associated Newspapers, publisher of the Mail On Sunday and Mail Online, and their relentless harassment of Meghan in the press. </p> <p>In the latest instalment of Harry and Meghan's Netflix documentary, the Duke of Sussex said, “I believe my wife suffered a miscarriage because of what the Mail did. I watched the whole thing. Now, do we absolutely know that the miscarriage was caused by that? Of course we don’t."</p> <p>“But bearing in mind the stress that caused, the lack of sleep and the timing of the pregnancy – how many weeks in she was – I can say from what I saw, that miscarriage was created by what they were trying to do to her.”</p> <p>Meghan’s friend, Abigail Spencer, describes watching the duchess fall to the floor while she was holding her son, Archie, in her new home, having said “I’m having a lot of pain”.</p> <p>The Sussexes were at the time engaged in legal action against Associated Newspapers reproducing a letter that Meghan had sent to her estranged father, Thomas Markle, in February 2019. </p> <p>In the documentary, Meghan said, “When I reveal things that are moments of vulnerability, when it comes to having a miscarriage and maybe having felt ashamed about that, like, it’s OK, you’re human, it’s OK to talk about that."</p> <p>In November 2020, the Duchess wrote a piece for the New York Times called The Losses We Share, saying, "Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few. In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage."</p> <p>"Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning."</p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p>

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Deb Knight opens up about miscarriage heartbreak: “A cloud of sadness”

<p><span>Deb Knight knows pain and heartache all too well, she has admitted in an interview with <em>9Honey</em>.</span><br /><br /><span>The Channel 9 star, who currently is a <em>2GB</em> host has revealed after two miscarriages and 11 cycles of IVF, that the pain is like a “cloud of sadness”.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7842573/daily-2.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/7fcbfda77ffb4772b72474d1c4efd2e0" /></p> <p><em>Image: Instagram</em><br /><br /><span>"It was like a cloud of sadness was hanging over me at the time because it is that emotional rollercoaster, that cliché very much rings true with IVF," Deb said.</span><br /><br /><span>"I would turn up to work and put on the brave face of presenting the news, which is what I was doing at the time.</span><br /><br /><span>“And I look back at myself then and I don't relate to who that person was because I was just very sad."</span><br /><br /><span>Deb and her partner Lindsay Dunbar thankfully got their happy ending, when they welcomed their son Darcy who is 11, and Elsa who is 9, through IVF.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7842572/daily-1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/95285d2fc3804e28a7b4222a86cb5f08" /></p> <p><em>Image: Instagram</em><br /><br /><span>However that would not be the only baby joy for Deb, who naturally fell pregnant at the age of 42 with her baby girl Audrey – nearly six years after she had Elsa.</span><br /><br /><span>"It completely caught us unawares and changed everything," Deb admitted.</span><br /><br /><span>"But the body is just a wonder and sometimes stuff happens and it happened to us.</span><br /><br /><span>Audrey came along and we can't imagine not having her in our lives."</span></p>

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The Project star breaks down after opening up about her miscarriage

<p>Chrissy Teigen has let fans in on a very emotional and private moment in her life on Thursday.</p> <p>The model shared with her fans that she had suffered from a miscarriage.</p> <p>It’s something that happens to one in four pregnant women, and those who experience it are left heartbroken.</p> <p>The Project panellist and comedian Em Rusciano made a special tribute to Chrissy during the show on Thursday night, after suffering her own miscarriage in May 2017.</p> <p>Getting emotional, she explained how it’s not talked about enough.</p> <p>“You find out about it when talking to girlfriends, and they say ‘I’ve had one too’. Not at the time, when they need the most support and love,” she explained.</p> <p>“You go through so many things, and you blame yourself. It’s a strange grief. It’s a different kind of grief, and I’ve never experienced anything like it.”</p> <p>Rusciano was grateful the star was so open and honest about her experience, as she hoped other women will have the courage to also speak up.</p> <p>Teigen took to Twitter to share her news, saying she and husband John Legend had lost their son, who the had named Jack, halfway through her third pregnancy.</p> <p>“We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we’ve never felt before,” the mum-of-two wrote to her fans.</p> <p>“We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It wasn’t enough.”</p> <p>“We never decide on our babies’ names until the last possible moment after they’re born, just before we leave the hospital. But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever.”</p> <p>She continued: “To our Jack - I’m so sorry that the first few moments of your life were met with so many complications, that we couldn’t give you the home you needed to survive. We will always love you.”</p>

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Angela Bishop and Sarah Harris open up about trauma on Studio 10

<p><em>Studio 10</em> hosts Sarah Harris and Angela Bishop have shared an emotional moment together after opening up about the tragic miscarriages. </p> <p>In a segment on the show, both of the morning show hosts got teary-eyed as they revealed neither of them dealt with their pain properly at the time.</p> <p>39-year-old Sarah Harris stated that she suffered a miscarriage just a day before the Logies. </p> <p>“I was trying on Spanx, as you do, and I was in the change room, and there was just blood everywhere,” she said.</p> <p>“I called my mother-in-law and said, ‘I don't know what's happening,’ and she said, ‘You're probably having a miscarriage’.”</p> <p>Sarah called her GP who told her that she was definitely having a miscarriage, but she would have to wait until the Monday to go get a scan.</p> <p>“For 36 hours, I just bled and thought, ‘Oh, well. That's my first baby gone,’ and I kind of just dealt with it in my own way,” she continued.</p> <p>On the Monday, the sonographer revealed that Sarah had actually been pregnant with twins and had tragically lost one of them.</p> <p>Sarah said it “kickstarted a horror eight weeks” where she was “afraid the other one would fall out”.</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr">.<a href="https://twitter.com/SarahHarris?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@SarahHarris</a>, <a href="https://twitter.com/AngelaBishop?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@AngelaBishop</a> and <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/TristanMacManus?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#TristanMacManus</a> share their stories of miscarriage. <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/Studio10?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#Studio10</a> <a href="https://t.co/KIUsxoZYAE">pic.twitter.com/KIUsxoZYAE</a></p> — Studio 10 (@Studio10au) <a href="https://twitter.com/Studio10au/status/1310394465027317761?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">September 28, 2020</a></blockquote> <p>She said she was also “afraid to exercise” because she was terrified that she would lose her other baby. </p> <p>“I don't think I really took the time to grieve it, because I had that beautiful baby in the end,” she said.</p> <p>Meanwhile, 53-year-old Angela Bishop says she went for her eight-week scan when she heard the terrifying words that “there is no heartbeat”.</p> <p>Angela teared up as she revealed she went back to work the next day and “never really dealt with it”.</p> <p>“I now know I went into a pretty bad period of depression,” she said. </p> <p>Both Sarah and Angela agreed that the conversation around miscarriage needs to open up.</p> <p>They stated losing a child in that capacity and speaking up about it was a “taboo” subject.</p> <p>Their co-host, Tristan MacManus also got teary as he talked about his wife, actress Tayna MacManus’ miscarriages.</p> <p>“From my perspective, as the support, you just don’t know what to say and I think something that plays a huge part in the fact that we don’t talk about things because it’s not just that you don’t know what to say, you don’t want to say the wrong thing,” he said. </p> <p>“That’s why I feel like this is so important, because we’re not trying to fix things, we all take that role of ‘i have to fix this’ but how can you fix something that you don’t know how to fix?</p> <p>“So all you can do, when you can’t do anything, you have to do something, and sometimes that’s just being a shoulder or it’s just being an ear to let someone get it off their chest.</p> <p>“And we can start the conversation, we can debunk some stigmas, we can put it out in the open where someone can try and help somebody else.”</p>

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Bride-to-be’s heartless reaction to sister’s miscarriage prompts groom to cancel their wedding

<p>A heartless bride caused her groom to call off their wedding after he witnessed her cruel reaction to news of her sister’s miscarriage.</p> <p>The bride’s wedding planner shared the horrific story on the website <a href="https://notalwaysright.com/"><strong style="font-style: inherit;"><u>Not Always Right</u></strong></a>, explaining that the drama first began when the sister first announced that she pregnant.</p> <p>After the sister, who was also chosen to be a bridesmaid for the wedding, revealed that she was pregnant, the bride became enraged and called it “inconvenient”.</p> <p>“The Bridezilla informed her that her pregnancy is inconvenient and threw a fit at her poor timing because the dress will have to be altered to handle the pregnancy,” she wrote.</p> <p>“I fled to another room and shut the door, but they were having it out so loudly I could still hear the fight,” the wedding planner recalled. </p> <p>The sister reminded the bride that she and her partner had been struggling to conceive for three years.</p> <p>“While the wedding may be your day, you knew what I was going through to get the chance to have a baby,” the sister said.</p> <p>The heartless bride then kicked her out of the bridal party, saying: “Well, then, I guess you can’t be in my wedding, because I don’t want to deal with the problems your pregnancy will cause.”</p> <p>The sister walked out of the meeting and the wedding planner said she had to put on her “best retail face” to continue on with their session.</p> <p>A few months later, the wedding planner was in a meeting with the bride and her mum when the mum excused herself to answer a phone call.</p> <p>After spending a while on the phone, the mum returned with a red face and tears in her eyes, letting her daughter know that the sister had lost her baby.</p> <p>The wedding planner’s heart immediately broke and she felt sympathy tears beginning to form in her eyes.</p> <p>However, the bride remained unaffected by the devastating news.</p> <p>“Oh. Well, I guess she can be in my wedding, then, since she’s not pregnant anymore,” the bride responded.</p> <p>The wedding planner said the mum’s eyes “snapped” before she proceeded to say in a “deadly calm voice” that she would no longer be paying for the wedding.</p> <p>“It looks like my daughter will be taking over paying for everything,” she told the wedding planner.</p> <p>“I hope this doesn’t cause your business any trouble.”</p> <p>The bride immediately started to panic, "waving her arms” and “screeching horrified questions” that the mum refused to answer.</p> <p>The wedding planner explained that the groom was also exposed to the bride’s heartlessness shortly after.</p> <p>“The wedding was cancelled entirely, twenty-four hours later, by the would-be groom,” she revealed at the end of the post. </p>

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Zara Tindall reveals secret trauma

<p>She welcomed her second daughter Lena in June, but Zara Tindall has revealed she suffered a second miscarriage shortly after <strong><u><a href="https://www.oversixty.com.au/news/news/2016/12/queens-granddaughter-loses-her-baby/">losing her unborn baby in 2016.</a> </u></strong></p> <p>In an interview with the Sunday Times Magazine, alongside her brother Peter Phillips, Zara said the loss happened “really early on”.</p> <p>The Queen’s eldest granddaughter has previously revealed she suffered a miscarriage, but not her secret second heartache.</p> <p>“I think you need to go through a period where you don’t talk about it because it’s too raw,” she said. “But, as with everything, time’s a great healer.”</p> <p>She explained that going through her first miscarriage was tough as the pregnancy had to be made public, as is the rule for descendants of the Queen.</p> <p>“We had to tell everyone and it’s like, everyone knows — that’s the hardest bit,” she said.</p> <p>“That’s why I think a lot of people don’t talk about it because [a miscarriage] can happen early enough or it’s only your group of friends and your family that know.”</p> <p>But when Zara lost her second baby, she and her husband, former England rugby player Mike Tindall, were able to mourn in private.</p> <p>The 37-year-old equestrian said mourning was easier for her when the miscarriage happened earlier on in the pregnancy.</p> <p>“I think a lot of the time you’re lucky if it happens a lot earlier,” she said.</p> <p>“It’s something a lot of families are affected by but then, hopefully, a lot of the stories I’ve heard, they’ve gone on and had more children and they’re very lucky.”</p>

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Candice Warner reveals tragic miscarriage

<p>Candice Warner has revealed she suffered a tragic miscarriage shortly after the ball-tampering scandal involving her husband David Warner erupted.</p> <p><a href="http://www.news.com.au/" target="_blank"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>News.com.au reports</strong></em></span></a> the incident occurred just one week after the tearful press conference where her husband apologised to the nation for his role.</p> <p>The 33-year-old one-time ironwoman shared the revelation with the Australian Women’s Weekly, describing it as a, “a heartbreaking end to a horror tour”.</p> <p>“I called Dave to the bathroom and told him I was bleeding. We knew I was miscarrying. We held one another and cried,” she told the A<em>ustralian Woman’s Weekly</em>.</p> <p>“The miscarriage was a heartbreaking end to a horror tour. The ordeal from the public humiliations to the ball tampering had taken its toll and, from that moment, we decided nothing will impact our lives like that again.”</p> <p>“I was beginning to feel that first stage of being pregnant — the subtle changes to my body were kicking in. We were overwhelmed, knowing another little Warner was on the way,” Ms Warner told the <em>Women’s Weekly</em>.</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr">I sat down with Women’s Weekly and the talented Lizzie Wilson to reveal coming through our darkest days and how Dave and the girls will always come first. <a href="https://t.co/FRs5pzSG6n">pic.twitter.com/FRs5pzSG6n</a></p> — Candice Warner (@CandyFalzon) <a href="https://twitter.com/CandyFalzon/status/999242071331426306?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">May 23, 2018</a></blockquote> <p>“I don’t think either of us realised how much we longed for this baby. We had been trying since last July and I did a test when we first got to Cape Town.”</p> <p><a href="http://www.news.com.au/" target="_blank"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>News.com.au reports</strong></em></span></a> Ms Warner said the 23-hour flight home from South Africa and the media awaiting the family at Sydney Airport only added to the stress.</p> <p> “We got the longest and tough route. No one knew I was pregnant and Dave did everything to get me home safely, fearing any more strain could affect our unborn child,” she said.</p> <p>Ms Warner also added that she was a spiritual person.</p> <p>“I truly believe it wasn’t their time to be with us,” she said.</p> <p>Our thoughts are with the Warners as they deal with this tragedy.</p>

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Megan Gale bravely opens up about miscarriage

<p>One month after she <a href="/news/news/2017/04/megan-gale-funny-pregnancy-announcement/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">announced her pregnancy in the most adorable way</span></strong></a>, Aussie model Megan Gale has bravely spoken about her miscarriage for the first time since revealing the news, plus sharing how she’s dealing with preparations for baby number two with boyfriend Shaun Hampson.</p> <p>“The pregnancy is going well,” she tells <a href="http://www.mamamia.com.au/megan-gale-second-pregnancy/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Mamamia</span></strong></a>. “In some ways it is different to my first [pregnancy] because of the experience of going through a miscarriage. I was very conscious to not put a lot of pressure on myself or Shaun or us or as a couple [to fall pregnant again] and let it happen organically. We very were lucky that it happened so quickly.”</p> <p>However, the <em>Australia’s Next Top Model</em> host admits she still holds fears for the worst. “With my first pregnancy, I knew there were complications but I didn't worry about it as much. With this pregnancy, I have been waiting for every scan and waiting on the edge of my seat for each one to pass.</p> <p>“I try not to let nerves and stress play a role in it all, but you can't help but wonder - what if it happens again? Shaun spoke about it as a couple and we agreed, whatever will be will be.”</p> <p>Despite all these fears, Gale admits she “wasn’t nervous” sharing her special news with the world. “On the one hand you're very happy to be at the point where you're safe and secure enough to be able to announce it. When you're in the public eye, you want to let people know what's going on rather than have people speculate. To go under that scrutiny before you're ready is a little bit unfair.”</p> <p>In a February interview with <em><a href="https://www.instylemag.com.au/article/celebrity/megan-gale-opens-up-about-carrying-her-first-child-after-miscarriage" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">InStyle</span></strong></a></em>, the model mum recalled the tragic moment she found out she’d lost the baby. “I hopped up on the table and [my obstetrician] put the ultrasound on my tummy. He just kept moving it and not saying anything and I started to feel sick. He was quiet, and then he just said, ‘I’m so sorry, it’s gone.’”</p> <p>We wish all the best for Megan and Shaun with baby number two.</p> <p><em>Image credit: Getty.</em></p>

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