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Grave cleaning videos are going viral on TikTok. Are they honouring the dead, or exploiting them?

<div class="theconversation-article-body"><em><a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/edith-jennifer-hill-1018412">Edith Jennifer Hill</a>, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/flinders-university-972">Flinders University</a> and <a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/marina-deller-947925">Marina Deller</a>, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/flinders-university-972">Flinders University</a></em></p> <p>Cleaning the graves of strangers is the latest content trend taking over TikTok. But as millions tune in to watch the videos, it’s becoming clear not all of them are created equal. Two grave-cleaning creators in particular seem to reside at opposite ends of the trend.</p> <p>One of the first accounts to gain popularity for grave cleaning was <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@ladytaphos">@ladytaphos</a>. This account is run by Alicia Williams, a Virginia resident who treats the graves with great dignity. Williams will often share the story of the person residing within, and acts with grace and kindness as she restores beauty to the <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@ladytaphos/video/7197894295641148714">graves</a>.</p> <p>On the other end of the spectrum is Kaeli Mae McEwen, or <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@_the_clean_girl">@the_clean_girl</a>, who leans into more clickbait-y tactics. McEwen is known for throwing a pink spiky ball through a graveyard and cleaning the grave it lands on. She also uses her videos to promote her own pink foamy cleaner (which at one point could be purchased via a link in her bio).</p> <h2>Cleaning and death</h2> <p>While Williams’ and McEwen’s videos may seem novel to some, death and cleaning have a long and varied relationship that spans time and cultures.</p> <p>Washing a loved one’s body before burial or cremation isn’t just practical – it’s a significant <a href="https://www.theage.com.au/national/victoria/washing-and-dressing-our-dead-the-movement-challenging-how-we-grieve-20230510-p5d794.html">ritual</a> that provides meaning during a period of grief. In certain cultures and religions it’s also a process of purification, or preparation for the afterlife.</p> <p>Much has been written about cleaning and clearing out the homes of deceased people. Family members often won’t agree on how to approach such a task. In his <a href="https://theconversation.com/friday-essay-grief-and-things-of-stone-wood-and-wool-136721">essay on death and objects</a>, author Tony Birch writes about his mother clearing out his grandmother’s house.</p> <p>“My mother decided that our first task after her death was to empty out her Housing Commission flat and scrub it clean,” Birch writes.</p> <p>He first laments the move, but later recognises the value of cleaning together before sorting – and treasuring – the items his grandmother left behind.</p> <p>Margaretta Magnuson’s 2017 book, <a href="https://www.google.com.au/books/edition/The_Gentle_Art_of_Swedish_Death_Cleaning/uW00DwAAQBAJ?hl=en&amp;gbpv=1&amp;pg=PT7&amp;printsec=frontcover">The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning</a>, is a humorous and thoughtful introduction to the Swedish movement of <em>döstädning</em>. The book (and subsequent <a href="https://www.sbs.com.au/ondemand/tv-series/the-gentle-art-of-swedish-death-cleaning">reality TV series</a>) has sparked various conversations on death and cleaning, and especially on cleaning before you yourself pass away so you don’t leave a mess for your loved ones.</p> <p>Grave cleaning can be seen as another continuation of caring for the deceased. People who decide to clean the graves of strangers may do so out of <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/society/2022/sep/04/how-gravetok-videos-of-cleaning-headstones-went-viral">respect</a>, or in an attempt to <a href="https://www.buzzfeed.com/alexalisitza/tiktok-woman-cleans-old-gravestones">give them “their name back”</a> (as names on graves become visible following the removal of debris).</p> <h2>Two very different approaches</h2> <p>Williams and McEwen are received quite differently by viewers. Anecdotally, viewers respond more positively to the calmer and more respectful cleaning videos by Williams, who takes time to explain the process while ensuring the correct products are used.</p> <p>Meanwhile, many find McEwen’s videos problematic and criticise her for not adhering to proper graveyard decorum. McEwen makes a spectacle of sites of mourning, such as by pretending to vacuum graves, replacing flowers placed by others and making jokes. Viewers also speculate the products she uses may cause damage to the graves.</p> <p>Perceived intent plays a role in how each creator’s content is received. While Williams focuses on respectfully restoring graves to their former glory, McEwen positions herself as the focus and merely uses the graves for content.</p> <h2>A complex emotional object</h2> <p>Similar to other funerary objects such as coffins and urns, graves are associated with both the person who died and the fact of their death. As such, they are emotionally complex objects that bring both strength and sadness to those left behind.</p> <p>But graves are unique also in that they are private objects of grief exposed in a public context. Anyone visiting the graveyard can view and interact with them. Does that make them “fair game” for content creators?</p> <p>Graves don’t just represent deceased loved ones. They can also act as stand-ins in their absence, becoming stone bodies of sorts. As sociologist Margaret Gibson describes in her book <a href="https://www.mup.com.au/books/objects-of-the-dead-paperback-softback">Objects of the Dead: Mourning and Memory in Everyday Life</a>, “death reconstructs our experience of objects”.</p> <p>“There is the strangeness of realising that things have outlived persons, and, in this regard, the materiality of things is shown to be more permanent than the materiality of the body,” she says.</p> <p>Caring for and cleaning graves can therefore be interpreted as caring for the deceased, by extending their existence through the materiality of their resting place.</p> <p>Psychological researcher <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/1600910X.2018.1521339">Svend Brinkmann asserts</a> artefacts such as graves are “culturally sanctioned”, gaining “significance from a collective system of meaning”.</p> <p>In other words, we as a community create and uphold reverence for such items. This is partly why the desecration of graves is viewed as abhorrent. It is societally understood to be a desecration of the person themselves. It’s also why content creators must tread lightly.</p> <h2>A reason for haunting?</h2> <p>There are ways to interact with gravestones (and even create content) which acknowledge their complexity and connection to their owners.</p> <p>TikTok creator Rosie Grant (<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@ghostlyarchive?lang=en">@ghostlyarchive</a>) bakes recipes found on headstones and records the process. She has even met with the families of the deceased <a href="https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/food-and-drink/defining-dishes-ghostly-archive-tiktok-b2414122.html">to make the recipes together</a> and learn more about the people behind the engraving-worthy food.</p> <p>However, randomly cleaning the graves of strangers is fraught territory – and rife with potential privacy issues. It isn’t clear whether McEwen seeks permission from loved ones before cleaning graves, but contextually this seems unlikely.</p> <p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKkOS2GjCxk">Recent discussions</a> have also uncovered questionable editing in her videos. Some graves in her before-and-after videos have been edited to appear cleaner and to have their structure altered. McEwen’s pink foaming cleaner also appears to be a blue cleaner edited to appear pink, raising even more questions about intent and responsibility.</p> <p>While McEwen claims to be “honouring” lives by cleaning “final resting places”, the consensus from viewers is her actions are dishonourable. As one host <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKkOS2GjCxk">commented on a in podcast</a> discussing McEwen cleaning a baby’s grave while speaking in a kiddish voice: “F**k you, you’re going to get haunted.”<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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"Heartless": Widows told they cannot be buried next to their late husbands

<p>A group of heartbroken widows in Perth have been told they cannot be buried next to their husbands in pre-purchased plots because of a technicality. </p> <p>The women paid for the plots more than two decades ago when their partners passed away, but were never told the leases for the plots were only valued for 25 years. </p> <p>Now, the local council has closed the cemetery and told the women they cannot be buried there next to their loved ones. </p> <p>Sheila Goble, who was married to her husband Fred for 40 years before he died, said the council's decision was "heartless" and "nasty". </p> <p>"Oh good grief, it's just nasty of the council, it really is, how can they do this to all the widows," Sheila told <a href="https://9now.nine.com.au/a-current-affair/perth-widows-told-they-cant-be-buried-beside-their-husbands-over-technicality/39c4bbd9-b0ef-4cf0-a552-a77927bc4763" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><em>A Current Affair</em></a>.</p> <p>"He thinks we're going to be buried together there, it's heartless, it really is," Sheila said of her husband.</p> <p>Prior to Fred's death, the couple has decided they wanted to be buried next to each other. </p> <p>"We knew we were losing, and I said 'shall I go and buy a plot?', and he said 'yes'," she said.</p> <p>That plot, as well as Sheila's, was purchased in 1998, for the pair to be buried side by side at Perth's East Rockingham Pioneer Cemetery.</p> <p>The Governor of Western Australia then closed the ceremony in 2009, with the City of Rockingham then adopting a policy which allowed it to "provide persons who do not hold a Grant of Right of Burial", meaning a current lease, the right to be buried with family".</p> <p>That policy was scrapped in April this year, and after Sheila's lease expired one year ago unbeknownst to her, she was told she could not renew it and had to find other burial plans. </p> <p>"(They) told me I could dig my husband's marble grave stone up, I could dig my husband up at my expense, he mentioned, take him to the new cemetery which is about eight to ten kilometres away buy another plot and bury him there."</p> <p>Gayle Parker's mother Lorna is experiencing the same plight, as she is also fighting for the pre-purchased plot next to her husband, as both widows claim they were never told about the 25 year lease. </p> <p>"No one's been contacted, if they're saying, okay you should have renewed your lease or something, why didn't someone contact us and say that?" Gayle asked.</p> <p>"Lets face it, Mum's 94, she's not going to be thinking in 25 years down the track after dad went 'oh hang on, I've got to go renew a lease' because they forget about it."</p> <p>A social media post on the women's issues has attracted dozens of comments, and the City of Rockingham has confirmed it's aware of at least 20 other cases of people fighting for their pre-purchases plots. </p> <p>The City of Rockingham issued a statement on the matter, saying, "Although the City is responsible for cemetery management - burial functions, including the issuing of grants, must comply with legislation, therefore there is no avenue for the City to grant an exemption or to permit a burial in these circumstances."</p> <p>Because it is the Governor's closure it can only be rectified by our advice to the Governor, a potentially lengthy process that could leave widowers and families in limbo.</p> <p>Gayle said it is hard to take in that her parents might not be buried together, while Sheila said she just "wants to be buried in a nice dress with a bottle of wine" next to her husband, who was buried with a beer. </p> <p><em>Image credits: A Current Affair </em></p>

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Burial plot up for sale for $100,000

<p>It turns out Australia's housing crisis extends beyond the grave, as it's now equally expensive to die in Sydney as it is to live. </p> <p>A graveyard in Sydney has wait lines longer than that of an Eastern Suburbs rental property, with plots at the exclusive Waverley Cemetery now up for sale for up to $100,000. </p> <p>Eyebrows were raised online when the plot at the cemetery was advertised for sale on Facebook Marketplace, with the ad reading that the plot is “used – like new” and is available “in perpetuity”.</p> <p>To sweeten the deal, the burial site’s owner states it has “ocean views” and is in a “quiet neighbourhood,” which is no doubt what one must take into consideration your forever home. </p> <p>Other plots in the same cemetery are also up for sale for a lesser $50,000 and $70,000. </p> <p>Talking to <em><a title="9now.nine.com.au" href="https://9now.nine.com.au/a-current-affair/sydneys-cemetery-crisis-exposed-as-100k-grave-listed-on-facebook-marketplace/fc2311a8-3591-4625-84f2-340de78d9f98" target="_blank" rel="noopener">A Current Affair</a></em>, Ben Kelly from the Australasian Cemeteries and Crematoria Association, said cost of living pressures, or perhaps cost of dying pressures, were a factor even in the graveyard industry, given the rising cost of cemetery maintenance. </p> <p>“Waverley Cemetery is a beautiful, historic cemetery with extremely limited capacity left,” Mr Kelly said.</p> <p>“As the population grows these cemeteries are filling up and they are creating new ones but they are further and further away.</p> <p>“So when the spots do come available they are obviously of a premium.”</p> <p>A place in Waverley Cemetery has long been highly sought after, with the heritage listed site boasting impressive Victorian and Edwardian monuments and memorials, as well as ocean views that are... to die for. </p> <p>While there are definitely some people prepared to fork out the expensive sum for their prime spot in the ground, others weren't so sure. </p> <p>“It sounds disgraceful to be honest,” one passer-by told <em>ACA</em>, when told of the price of a plot at the graveyard.</p> <p>“I think that’s ridiculous”.</p> <p>Competition to get into Waverley Cemetery is so fierce that new plots with perpetual rights are no longer available, with the graveyard instead offering renewable internment rights. </p> <p>This allows for the burial of human rights for a minimum initial term of 25 years which then has to be renewed, and even then, there's an extensive waitlist. </p> <p>The extortionate prices after reflected in a 2020 report by the NSW Government, which found some of Sydney’s largest and most well-known public cemeteries were in there “final years” of being able to accommodate new burials and will likely be full by 2032.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Facebook / A Current Affair</em></p>

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"It's a sad world": Audacious act of thievery at cemetery

<p>A cemetery located in southwest Sydney has been targeted by callous thieves, after a number of families have reported missing portions of their loved ones' memorial plaques.</p> <p>The theft primarily involves the removal of bronze vases, which are situated below the surface within these memorial plaques. It is suspected that a group of individuals orchestrated the theft in order to sell the items as scrap metal.</p> <p>As families grapple with their grief, they now must now contend with the shock of discovering that the resting places of their beloved ones have been desecrated by vandals.</p> <p>Sydney resident Nicole Futcher shared her experience after visiting her grandmother's memorial site, only to find that the bronze vase placed there was among the recent targets of theft. She told <a href="https://au.news.yahoo.com/cemetery-rocked-by-disgusting-act-from-opportunistic-thieves-023846896.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Yahoo News</a>: </p> <p>"I was in shock when I seen it was gone, then I seen many others around her missing as well. I thought maybe the cemetery was replacing them all."</p> <p>When Nicole spoke with ground staff to ask after the missing vases were, she was told she was not the only victim, and that they had ALL gone missing.</p> <p>"That was the last thing I would have thought had happened. It's a sad world."</p> <p>Adding insult to injury, the affected families have been offered hollow replacements – vases made from inferior, plastic materials – having already paid for the bronze vases that now lie in the hands of thieves.</p> <p>Forest Lawn Memorial Park, for its part, acknowledges the grievousness of the situation and has alerted the authorities.</p> <p>Regrettably, this incident is not the first instance of a cemetery being targeted by thieves with personal gain in mind. In 2019, a distressing event occurred in Queensland, where a cemetery north of Brisbane fell victim to the theft of more than 50 brass plates.</p> <p>The Caboolture and Districts Lawn Cemetery saw the removal of 52 brass plates and damage to six headstones in March of that year. The estimated value of the stolen plates from the headstones amounted to approximately $26,000.</p> <p>The news of this theft garnered strong reactions on social media, with many residents expressing their outrage. A sentiment of condemnation prevailed, as one woman stated, “What a despicable act and heartless thieves,” underscoring her personal connection to the matter due to her grandmother's burial in the same cemetery.</p> <p>“Some people just have no respect for anything anymore,” commented another, while a third wrote: “Total disrespect – how do they sleep at night?”</p> <p><em>Images: Facebook / Queensland Police</em></p>

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Our cemeteries face a housing crisis too. 4 changes can make burial sustainable

<p><em><a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/kate-falconer-1171812">Kate Falconer</a>, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/the-university-of-queensland-805">The University of Queensland</a> and <a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/hannah-gould-999499">Hannah Gould</a>, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/the-university-of-melbourne-722">The University of Melbourne</a></em></p> <p>Australia’s housing crisis is no secret. What many people don’t realise is that there’s another, less visible housing crisis. Australia’s urban cemeteries are <a href="https://theconversation.com/housing-the-dead-what-happens-when-a-city-runs-out-of-space-70121">running out of space</a> to house the dead.</p> <p>In Sydney, for example, a <a href="https://www.cemeteries.nsw.gov.au/sites/default/files/2023-01/Statutory-Review-of-the-Cemeteries-Crematoria-Act.pdf">2020 report</a> found all of the city’s existing public cemeteries would be full by 2032. This will leave the communities they serve without a place to bury their dead.</p> <p>We know how to solve this crisis. A few key changes can make Australia’s cemeteries more sustainable and viable for generations to come.</p> <p>But these changes require political will to act. That’s because the solutions involve changes to the state-based laws that govern cemeteries. We can start with Victoria’s <a href="https://www.health.vic.gov.au/cemeteries-and-crematoria/cemeteries-and-crematoria-regulations-2015">Cemeteries and Crematoria Regulations 2015</a>, which must be updated by 2025.</p> <h2>Make renewable grave tenure the default option</h2> <p>Most Australians <a href="https://theconversation.com/losing-the-plot-death-is-permanent-but-your-grave-isnt-33459">assume graves last forever</a>. This system of perpetual tenure is mandatory in Victoria and the ACT. It’s the (near-universal) default in New South Wales, Queensland and Tasmania.</p> <p>But this system makes our burial space a “single use” resource. Overseas, perpetual tenure is the exception rather than the rule. Almost all <a href="https://www.talkdeath.com/cemetery-overcrowding-leading-europe-recycle-burial-plots/">European</a> and <a href="https://theconversation.com/lack-of-burial-space-is-changing-age-old-funeral-practices-and-in-japan-tree-burials-are-gaining-in-popularity-161323">East Asian countries</a> have limited tenure for burial, or actively encourage cremation.</p> <p>Where grave renewal occurs in Australia, it happens a long time after burial, typically between 25 and 99 years. By this time, the physical remains of the grave’s previous occupant have significantly degraded. Any remnants are preserved in an ossuary or dug deeper into the soil.</p> <p>Cemeteries in South Australia and Western Australia already have renewable grave tenure. Families have an option to extend tenure, should they wish to do so.</p> <p>By making renewable tenure the default option across Australia, cemeteries will greatly increase future capacity. If all of Sydney’s public cemeteries adopted a 35-year renewable tenure system, for example, it has <a href="https://www.cemeteries.nsw.gov.au/sites/default/files/2023-01/Statutory-Review-of-the-Cemeteries-Crematoria-Act.pdf">been estimated</a> the city’s burial needs over the next 99 years would require 38% less land.</p> <figure><iframe src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/zysuo1Pw-2w?wmode=transparent&amp;start=0" width="440" height="260" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen"></iframe><figcaption><span class="caption">One of Perth’s major cemeteries is redeveloping existing burial grounds in response to running out of space.</span></figcaption></figure> <h2>Create dedicated natural burial grounds</h2> <p>One simple, more environmentally friendly option is “<a href="https://www.gmct.com.au/services/natural-burials">natural burial</a>”. Natural burial eschews embalming, caskets made from hardwood or metal, and monumental headstones. Instead, the body is buried in biodegradable materials, such as wicker or cardboard.</p> <p>Green burial grounds are popular in the United Kingdom and Europe. They require less irrigation and maintenance. They also offer <a href="https://theecologist.org/2019/jan/14/case-natural-burial">a way to conserve natural woodlands</a> and so help foster biodiversity.</p> <p>Some Australian cemeteries offer <a href="https://smct.org.au/murrun-naroon-natural-burials">natural burial as an option</a> next to traditional grave plots. There are, however, few dedicated natural burial grounds. Legislating natural burial grounds as distinct entities will allow specific regulations that give priority to regular grave renewal and positive environmental impact.</p> <p>Natural burial grounds may also make “better neighbours” than traditional cemeteries if communities are going to be <a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-01-23/sydney-is-running-out-of-burial-space/101881570">asked to live alongside new cemeteries</a>. Overcoming resistance to new cemetery developments is essential to secure future burial capacity.</p> <h2>Legalise alternative disposal methods</h2> <p>We are all familiar with burial and cremation. But what about dissolving bodies in an alkaline solution – known as “<a href="https://www.smithsonianmag.com/innovation/could-water-cremation-become-the-new-american-way-of-death-180980479/">water cremation</a>” or “alkaline hydrolysis” – or transforming them into compost (“natural organic reduction”)?</p> <p>These options have <a href="https://theconversation.com/life-after-death-americans-are-embracing-new-ways-to-leave-their-remains-85657">robust environmental credentials</a>. They require less space than burial, as they produce portable remains in the form of ashes or soil. <a href="https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-64140571">Several US states</a> now permit these options.</p> <p>In most of Australia, these options exist in a legal grey area. In <a href="https://content.legislation.vic.gov.au/sites/default/files/2020-04/03-80aa034%20authorised_0.pdf">Victoria</a>, authorisation must be sought from the Department of Health to dispose of a body other than by burial or cremation. Queensland has no comprehensive cemeteries legislation, and thus no guidance on the legality of these alternatives.</p> <p><a href="https://legislation.nsw.gov.au/view/pdf/asmade/sl-2011-568">New South Wales</a> legalised water cremation (but not natural organic reduction) in 2011. The state now has two such facilities.</p> <p>Other states and territories should follow NSW in explicitly legalising viable alternative disposal methods. This will ease pressure on cemeteries and provide greater choice to families.</p> <h2>Invest in cemeteries as multi-use green spaces</h2> <p>Current regulatory frameworks emphasise the cemetery as a space of sombre reflection and remembrance. <a href="https://content.legislation.vic.gov.au/sites/default/files/2020-07/15-59sra003%20authorised.pdf">Victoria</a>, for example, prohibits a wide range of activities, including dancing, fishing and sport.</p> <p>However, as <a href="https://www.acf.org.au/natural_solutions_needed_for_our_overheating_cities">green space becomes scarce</a> in Australia’s major cities, public opinion and current practices are falling out of alignment with such regulations. In a <a href="https://theconversation.com/visions-of-future-cemeteries-5-models-and-how-australians-feel-about-them-149150">recent national survey</a>, two-thirds of respondents disagreed with the sentiment that cemeteries were solely spaces for memorialisation. They supported the use of cemeteries as public green space.</p> <p>Historic cemeteries, where new burials and visits are rare, offer even greater potential as multi-use public space. In <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1618866722001418">cities overseas</a>, jogging, walking the dog and picnics are common in these cemeteries.</p> <p>Australia is yet to feel the full effects of the impending crisis of cemetery space. While big changes are needed to avert this crisis, at least the path forward is clear.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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Beirne School of Law, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/the-university-of-queensland-805">The University of Queensland</a> and <a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/hannah-gould-999499">Hannah Gould</a>, Research Fellow, Social And Political Sciences, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/the-university-of-melbourne-722">The University of Melbourne</a></em></p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p> <p><em>This article is republished from <a href="https://theconversation.com">The Conversation</a> under a Creative Commons license. Read the <a href="https://theconversation.com/our-cemeteries-face-a-housing-crisis-too-4-changes-can-make-burial-sustainable-205987">original article</a>.</em></p>

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Family learns they visited wrong gravestone for nearly 20 years

<p>A family from the UK have been left devastated after discovering they have been visiting the wrong grave for almost 20 years. </p> <p>The Bell family, who buried their familial patriarch Thomas back in 2005, regularly visited his gravestone at Holy Trinity cemetery in Wingate, County Durham, for 17 years.</p> <p>According to the <a href="https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-tees-63858303?at_bbc_team=editorial&amp;at_format=link&amp;at_medium=social&amp;at_link_type=web_link&amp;at_link_id=C514075C-74A5-11ED-997B-754D2152A482&amp;at_link_origin=BBC_News&amp;at_ptr_name=facebook_page&amp;at_campaign_type=owned&amp;at_campaign=Social_Flow&amp;fbclid=IwAR0hoRUkg38_Q-s8CoEe70ObHtrYX4-QbVvA7KH2hCTmcEd34a28BuYzfeI" target="_blank" rel="noopener">BBC</a>, it wasn't until Thomas' wife Hilda - who was due to be buried beside him - also died this year that the mix-up was discovered.</p> <p>The family discovered that a mix-up at the cemetery has seen Thomas's headstone been "placed on the wrong grave", due to "insufficient process" and "poor record keeping".</p> <p>An inquiry into the incident found "a perfect storm" of problems led to the crushing mistake, believed to be due to the human error of a stonemason.</p> <p>Bob Cooper, the Archdeacon of Sunderland, said that the error was a "great sadness" caused by a number of wrong protocols being followed.</p> <p>"The term 'a perfect storm' is used all too often in modern parlance, however on this occasion it seems particularly apt," Cooper said.</p> <p>"It cannot be guaranteed that historic cases like this will not reoccur because there will be gaps in the records for many reasons in parishes across the Diocese of Durham and further afield."</p> <p>A number of recommendations are set to be implemented within the parish to ensure the mix-up does not occur again.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Google Maps</em></p>

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11 most beautiful cemeteries in the world

<p><strong>Beautiful burial sites</strong></p> <p>In her book <em>Cities of the Dead: The World’s Most Beautiful Cemeteries</em>, taphophile Yolanda Zappaterra presents a guide to some 50 burial sites around the world.</p> <p>From Japan and Australia to Ireland and Senegal, she delves into wide-ranging rituals, fashions and customs around death and burial to present an absorbing picture of the after world. Here is a small selection of her favourites from the book.</p> <p><strong>Issyk-Kul cemeteries, Kyrgyzstan</strong></p> <p>A complex cultural mix of nomadic Central Asian, Islamic and Soviet makes the many cemeteries around the Issyk-Kul lake region of Kyrgyzstan as unique as they are arresting – so much so that one of them, Sary-Kamysh, was voted one of the most beautiful cemeteries in the world by National Geographic.</p> <p>Spindly wire-frame yurt skeletons, brick-built monuments that look like mini-mosques, decorated towers and even onion-domed mausoleums styled on Russian churches offer a fascinating illustration of the region’s mix and heritage.</p> <p><strong>Fadiouth Shell Island, Joal-Fadiouth, Mbour, Senegal</strong></p> <p>Sitting like a surreal mirage on the Senegalese coastline some 100km south of Dakar lies what must surely be the noisiest cemetery in the world.</p> <p>Respectful silence is impossible as your feet crunch over the ton upon ton of broken clam shells that make up the pretty island of Fadiouth, a traditional estuary fishing village linked to its cemetery via a wooden bridge.</p> <p>The cemetery is notable for being used by both the predominant Christian population but also a significant Islamic population, including the first missionary who died in Senegal.</p> <p><strong>Gubbio Cemetery, Mount Ingino, Umbria, Italy</strong></p> <p>Modern-day cemeteries often focus on the functional, but a visionary town council and architect will sometimes create a cemetery that’s uniquely expressive, as they have here on the outskirts of one of Italy’s most important medieval towns.</p> <p>Influences from the town, such as narrow streets, tall medieval buildings and the famous Palazzo dei Consoli, have led to courtyards connected by monumental blocks and corridors which their architect Dragoni describes as “squares of silence, offering the public an opportunity to pause and reflect”.</p> <p><strong>The Waverley Cemetery, Sydney, NSW, Australia</strong></p> <p>Perched high on the Bronte cliffs, the 50,000 or so graves looking out over the deep blue waters of the Pacific Ocean’s Tasman Sea are surely set in one of the most beautiful spots imaginable for an afterlife.</p> <p>But it’s not just the location that makes Waverley so appealing; the romantic flourishes of 19th-century European cemeteries were instrumental in the design, and the mini Gothic chapels, weeping angels, beatific cherubs, classical columns and mournful figures of death, most created of white marble and cream limestone, create a beautiful aesthetic too.</p> <p><strong>Skogskyrkogården Woodland Cemetery, Stockholm, Sweden</strong></p> <p>Over time, all cemeteries form symbiotic relationships between the manmade and natural worlds. But Skogskyrkogården was established with that symbiosis at the core of its being, with the concept and experience of mourning and healing at its heart.</p> <p>Set amid some 10,000 soaring pines, diminutive graves that are all less than waist height (even Greta Garbo’s, whose simple stone is carved with just her signature) make Skogskyrkogården an intensely spiritual experience. And on All Saints Day, when families bring candles and lanterns, that experience is nothing short of magical.</p> <p><strong>Kensal Green Cemetery, London, UK</strong></p> <p>When the barrister George Frederick Carden visited Paris’s Père Lachaise in Paris in 1821, he determined to come back to London and set up a similar cemetery. Twelve years later Kensal Green, the first of London’s Magnificent Seven garden-style cemeteries, opened to huge acclaim, with London society in thrall to the Arcadian idyll.</p> <p>Two centuries on, that classical idyll and the thousands of Gothic graves and mausoleums make for an irresistible combination, as seen in the 1973 British horror movie Theatre of Blood. It’s a fine place to go celebrity grave hunting too, but you’ll search in vain for the tombs of Ingrid Bergman, Freddie Mercury or Joe Strummer. While all were cremated here, none, as many people believe, are buried here.</p> <p><strong>Merry Cemetery (Cimitirul Vesel), Săpânța, Romania</strong></p> <p>Most cemeteries are sombre spaces, but the Merry Cemetery is just what its name suggests, with colourful folk art scenes painted onto over 800 bright blue wooden crosses, all bearing unique illustrated stories and poems about the deceased.</p> <p>They are the work of two local craftsmen, Stan Ioan Pătraş, who carved them from the 1930s until his death in 1977, and his apprentice Dumitru Pop, who is still creating them today. Families give them free reign on how the life of the deceased is represented, though what the angel in red underpants represents is anyone’s guess!</p> <p><strong>Bonaventure Cemetery, Savannah, Georgia, USA</strong></p> <p>The abundance of life across this most fecund of cemeteries is almost an affront to the dead contained within it – lush greenery and vibrant colours are everywhere you look, from roses and spring azaleas in dazzling colours to live oaks thought to date back 250 years.</p> <p>Bright green moss wraps tree trunks in a soft jewel-like down while silvery grey-white Spanish moss hangs down from branches like so many dense cobwebs to create a wonderfully gothic canopy over the graves below. As if responding to all this excess, the funerary art and sculpture here is some of the most beautiful in the country.</p> <p><strong>Père Lachaise, Paris, France</strong></p> <p>Père Lachaise is the archetypal Victorian garden cemetery, and with such celebrities as Jim Morrison, Édith Piaf, Oscar Wilde, Proust, Modigliani, Chopin and Maria Callas buried here, it’s no wonder it’s the most visited cemetery in the world (three million people visit each year).</p> <p>Thanks to scale – 97 sections spread across 106 acres – it never feels crowded. Wandering among the tombs of the million or so bodies believed to have been buried here since it opened in 1804 (not including at least the same number of remains in the columbarium and the Aux Morts ossuary), exploring the wonderful array of funerary styles across the site, is an absolute pleasure.</p> <p><strong>Okunoin Cemetery, Mount Koya, Japan</strong></p> <p>Nothing prepares you for the sight of the 10,000 lanterns that lie at the heart of Japan’s largest cemetery, even though you’ll have had a chance to acclimatise yourself to its magical, misty mien by walking, if you arrive at it via the traditional entrance of Ichinohashi Bridge, through two kilometres of a sacred and eerie 1,200-year-old mountain forest.</p> <p>In it lie the lichen- and moss-covered graves of 200,000 Buddhist monks, feudal lords and military commanders, as well as more than 100 temples and monasteries and that lantern-lit nucleus that is the mausoleum of Kōbō-Daishi, also known as Kūkai, the founder of Shingon Buddhism.</p> <p>And because Okunoin is open 24 hours a day, you can visit it at night, when a monk guide can offer insights into that add extra depth and intensity to the experience. But even better is a visit at dawn, when out of the mountain mist appear the ghostly orange-clad forms of monks coming to leave their food offerings to Kobo Daishi.</p> <p><strong>Recoleta Cemetery, Buenos Aires, Argentina</strong></p> <p>The good, the bad and the wealthy are all buried in Buenos Aires’ famous Recoleta Cemetery, a quintessential necropolis whose planned grid mimics the city beyond, with tree-lined thoroughfares branching out into smaller streets and passageways lined with almost 4,700 vaults. For no one is buried underground at Recoleta, with the notable exception of Eva Perón, or Evita, the “First Lady of Argentina”, who lies deep underground in a heavily fortified crypt.</p> <p>The extraordinary mish-mash of architectural styles and elaborate statuary ensure there is always something wonderful to look at, and many of the tombs are still in use and lovingly maintained; others lie derelict and neglected, strewn with broken glass, fading plastic flowers and rubbish, a dusty coffin half visible among the cobwebs.</p> <p><em><span id="docs-internal-guid-e6c4d8e1-7fff-8cbc-f28e-e475e636e6f8">Written by Yolanda Zappaterra. This article first appeared in <a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/travel/destinations/11-most-beautiful-cemeteries-in-the-world" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Reader’s Digest</a>. For more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, <a href="http://readersdigest.innovations.com.au/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA87V" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here’s our best subscription offer.</a></span></em></p> <p><em>Image: Getty Images</em></p>

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Tragic scenes as clifftop cemetery collapses into the sea

<div class="post_body_wrapper"> <div class="post_body"> <div class="body_text redactor-styles redactor-in"> <p>A landslide has caused hundreds of coffins to end up in the ocean on the Italian coast near Genoa.</p> <p>The Camogli cemetery was built more than 100 years ago and is situated along an area of rocky seaside cliffs.</p> <p>Francesco Olivari, the mayor of Camogli, called the collapse an “unimaginable catastrophe.”</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/Camogli?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#Camogli</a> (GE), frana cimitero: prosegue da parte di specialisti <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/sommozzatori?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#sommozzatori</a> e nautici dei <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/vigilidelfuoco?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#vigilidelfuoco</a> la ricerca e il recupero delle centinaia di bare finite in mare lunedì pomeriggio. Droni in volo per monitorare le operazioni delle squadre e l’area del crollo <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/24febbraio?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#24febbraio</a> <a href="https://t.co/cRFxHw0KJe">pic.twitter.com/cRFxHw0KJe</a></p> — Vigili del Fuoco (@emergenzavvf) <a href="https://twitter.com/emergenzavvf/status/1364576829546364928?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">February 24, 2021</a></blockquote> <p>Maintenance was being performed on Saturday alongside the areas of the coastline when it was stopped after workers noticed cracks in the rocks.</p> <p>“We were doing work on a portion of the rocky coast - it was close to the area that fell today,” Olivari told CNN on Monday.</p> <p>“Some signs of fissures were seen. We decided to close the cemetery.”</p> <p>On Tuesday, officials said they will continue work on recovering the coffins and corpses.</p> <p>It is estimated 200 coffins had fallen, but only 10 have been recovered.</p> <p>Recovering the rest of the coffins will "depend on the sea in the coming days", according to Giacomo Giampedrone, regional assessor of civil protection.</p> </div> </div> </div>

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Cemetery removes headstone over “offensive” picture

<p>A petition has been launched against a memorial park in Adelaide following the removal of an “offensive” headstone.</p> <p>Arthur Bridge’s son Peter Robert Bridge died in April last year at 33 following a lifelong battle with cystic fibrosis.</p> <p>Arthur said his family wanted to celebrate Peter’s “wicked sense of humour” by including a small picture of him sticking up his middle finger on his headstone at the Enfield Memorial Park.</p> <p>“Pete would have loved it because that was who he was,” Arthur told <em><a href="https://www.9news.com.au/national/adelaide-cemetery-grieving-family-outraged-after-offensive-headstone-removed/0037fe17-58a2-4eb8-8927-106a80f6fb13">9News</a></em>. “He would be driving along and he would see a mate and the finger would be up to them, just joking around.”</p> <p>The headstone was removed in January, months after it was installed.</p> <p>Arthur said the cemetery found the photo “offensive” and removed the headstone without contacting him or his family.</p> <p>“Apparently someone had complained. But the photo is so small, you would have to be standing pretty much on top of it to see what it is,” he said.</p> <p>“They know where I live, I’m only five minutes up the road. They could have popped a letter in my letterbox.</p> <p>“It’s morally wrong, there is just nothing right about it. You don’t do that.”</p> <p>More than 2,600 people have signed <a href="https://www.change.org/p/enfield-memorial-petition-against-enfield-memorial-for-removing-our-sons-headstone">a petition</a> set up by Arthur to protest the removal.</p> <p>The Adelaide Cemeteries Authority told <em><a href="https://7news.com.au/entertainment/viral-weird/beloved-sons-cheeky-gravestone-removed-from-adelaide-cemetery-for-being-offensive-c-707896">7News</a></em> it has made numerous attempts to notify the Bridge family prior to the removal.</p> <p>“Adelaide Cemeteries has since met with the Bridge family on a number of occasions to try to resolve the issue,” said chief operations officer Michael Robertson.</p> <p>“Adelaide Cemeteries remains prepared to work with the Bridge family to find a solution.”</p>

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