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Woman's late husband "sues from beyond the grave"

<p>A woman has claimed her late husband is "harassing her from beyond the grave" after she was forced to fight legal action he took out against her before his untimely death. </p> <p>Lucinda regularly posts about her life on TikTok, and has recently told her followers about the shocking way her ex-husband is haunting her after his passing. </p> <p>In a viral video, the American woman revealed that her spouse had tragically died from a heart attack, and prior to his death, he had been taking her to court for $4,200.</p> <p>Following his death, she found out she still had to go to court to fight it. </p> <p>Lucinda captioned the clip, "When does it end?!", as she began the clip by saying, "I swear you can't make this s**t up."</p> <p>She explained, "My husband who was harassing me for 20 months with a bunch of legal s**t. All I was trying to do was get divorced. Instead, he had a heart attack and died. So now I’m a widow."</p> <p>Lucinda revealed that her spouse had filed a claim against her for vet bills, saying, "He filed a small claims suit against me claiming $4,200 worth of vet bills for our 15-year-old cat."</p> <p>"Even though he has died, the court states that I still need to show up for mandatory mediation. So this f***er is still harassing me and suing me from the grave. It’s f***ing crazy."</p> <p>Her followers flooded the comments section and expressed their shock over the situation, with one person joking, "Well, if it's mandatory for one it's mandatory for both. Show up. Case dismissed."</p> <p><em>Image credits: Shutterstock / TikTok</em></p>

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Grave cleaning videos are going viral on TikTok. Are they honouring the dead, or exploiting them?

<div class="theconversation-article-body"><em><a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/edith-jennifer-hill-1018412">Edith Jennifer Hill</a>, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/flinders-university-972">Flinders University</a> and <a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/marina-deller-947925">Marina Deller</a>, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/flinders-university-972">Flinders University</a></em></p> <p>Cleaning the graves of strangers is the latest content trend taking over TikTok. But as millions tune in to watch the videos, it’s becoming clear not all of them are created equal. Two grave-cleaning creators in particular seem to reside at opposite ends of the trend.</p> <p>One of the first accounts to gain popularity for grave cleaning was <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@ladytaphos">@ladytaphos</a>. This account is run by Alicia Williams, a Virginia resident who treats the graves with great dignity. Williams will often share the story of the person residing within, and acts with grace and kindness as she restores beauty to the <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@ladytaphos/video/7197894295641148714">graves</a>.</p> <p>On the other end of the spectrum is Kaeli Mae McEwen, or <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@_the_clean_girl">@the_clean_girl</a>, who leans into more clickbait-y tactics. McEwen is known for throwing a pink spiky ball through a graveyard and cleaning the grave it lands on. She also uses her videos to promote her own pink foamy cleaner (which at one point could be purchased via a link in her bio).</p> <h2>Cleaning and death</h2> <p>While Williams’ and McEwen’s videos may seem novel to some, death and cleaning have a long and varied relationship that spans time and cultures.</p> <p>Washing a loved one’s body before burial or cremation isn’t just practical – it’s a significant <a href="https://www.theage.com.au/national/victoria/washing-and-dressing-our-dead-the-movement-challenging-how-we-grieve-20230510-p5d794.html">ritual</a> that provides meaning during a period of grief. In certain cultures and religions it’s also a process of purification, or preparation for the afterlife.</p> <p>Much has been written about cleaning and clearing out the homes of deceased people. Family members often won’t agree on how to approach such a task. In his <a href="https://theconversation.com/friday-essay-grief-and-things-of-stone-wood-and-wool-136721">essay on death and objects</a>, author Tony Birch writes about his mother clearing out his grandmother’s house.</p> <p>“My mother decided that our first task after her death was to empty out her Housing Commission flat and scrub it clean,” Birch writes.</p> <p>He first laments the move, but later recognises the value of cleaning together before sorting – and treasuring – the items his grandmother left behind.</p> <p>Margaretta Magnuson’s 2017 book, <a href="https://www.google.com.au/books/edition/The_Gentle_Art_of_Swedish_Death_Cleaning/uW00DwAAQBAJ?hl=en&amp;gbpv=1&amp;pg=PT7&amp;printsec=frontcover">The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning</a>, is a humorous and thoughtful introduction to the Swedish movement of <em>döstädning</em>. The book (and subsequent <a href="https://www.sbs.com.au/ondemand/tv-series/the-gentle-art-of-swedish-death-cleaning">reality TV series</a>) has sparked various conversations on death and cleaning, and especially on cleaning before you yourself pass away so you don’t leave a mess for your loved ones.</p> <p>Grave cleaning can be seen as another continuation of caring for the deceased. People who decide to clean the graves of strangers may do so out of <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/society/2022/sep/04/how-gravetok-videos-of-cleaning-headstones-went-viral">respect</a>, or in an attempt to <a href="https://www.buzzfeed.com/alexalisitza/tiktok-woman-cleans-old-gravestones">give them “their name back”</a> (as names on graves become visible following the removal of debris).</p> <h2>Two very different approaches</h2> <p>Williams and McEwen are received quite differently by viewers. Anecdotally, viewers respond more positively to the calmer and more respectful cleaning videos by Williams, who takes time to explain the process while ensuring the correct products are used.</p> <p>Meanwhile, many find McEwen’s videos problematic and criticise her for not adhering to proper graveyard decorum. McEwen makes a spectacle of sites of mourning, such as by pretending to vacuum graves, replacing flowers placed by others and making jokes. Viewers also speculate the products she uses may cause damage to the graves.</p> <p>Perceived intent plays a role in how each creator’s content is received. While Williams focuses on respectfully restoring graves to their former glory, McEwen positions herself as the focus and merely uses the graves for content.</p> <h2>A complex emotional object</h2> <p>Similar to other funerary objects such as coffins and urns, graves are associated with both the person who died and the fact of their death. As such, they are emotionally complex objects that bring both strength and sadness to those left behind.</p> <p>But graves are unique also in that they are private objects of grief exposed in a public context. Anyone visiting the graveyard can view and interact with them. Does that make them “fair game” for content creators?</p> <p>Graves don’t just represent deceased loved ones. They can also act as stand-ins in their absence, becoming stone bodies of sorts. As sociologist Margaret Gibson describes in her book <a href="https://www.mup.com.au/books/objects-of-the-dead-paperback-softback">Objects of the Dead: Mourning and Memory in Everyday Life</a>, “death reconstructs our experience of objects”.</p> <p>“There is the strangeness of realising that things have outlived persons, and, in this regard, the materiality of things is shown to be more permanent than the materiality of the body,” she says.</p> <p>Caring for and cleaning graves can therefore be interpreted as caring for the deceased, by extending their existence through the materiality of their resting place.</p> <p>Psychological researcher <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/1600910X.2018.1521339">Svend Brinkmann asserts</a> artefacts such as graves are “culturally sanctioned”, gaining “significance from a collective system of meaning”.</p> <p>In other words, we as a community create and uphold reverence for such items. This is partly why the desecration of graves is viewed as abhorrent. It is societally understood to be a desecration of the person themselves. It’s also why content creators must tread lightly.</p> <h2>A reason for haunting?</h2> <p>There are ways to interact with gravestones (and even create content) which acknowledge their complexity and connection to their owners.</p> <p>TikTok creator Rosie Grant (<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@ghostlyarchive?lang=en">@ghostlyarchive</a>) bakes recipes found on headstones and records the process. She has even met with the families of the deceased <a href="https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/food-and-drink/defining-dishes-ghostly-archive-tiktok-b2414122.html">to make the recipes together</a> and learn more about the people behind the engraving-worthy food.</p> <p>However, randomly cleaning the graves of strangers is fraught territory – and rife with potential privacy issues. It isn’t clear whether McEwen seeks permission from loved ones before cleaning graves, but contextually this seems unlikely.</p> <p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKkOS2GjCxk">Recent discussions</a> have also uncovered questionable editing in her videos. Some graves in her before-and-after videos have been edited to appear cleaner and to have their structure altered. McEwen’s pink foaming cleaner also appears to be a blue cleaner edited to appear pink, raising even more questions about intent and responsibility.</p> <p>While McEwen claims to be “honouring” lives by cleaning “final resting places”, the consensus from viewers is her actions are dishonourable. As one host <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKkOS2GjCxk">commented on a in podcast</a> discussing McEwen cleaning a baby’s grave while speaking in a kiddish voice: “F**k you, you’re going to get haunted.”<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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Teens arrested after vandalising over 100 graves

<p>Three teenagers have been arrested after they allegedly damaged 100 graves in Toowoomba Cemetery last weekend. </p> <p>Police allege that about 100 headstones in the heritage-listed cemetery were vandalised overnight between Friday August 9 and Saturday August 10. </p> <p>Images from the cemetery show the extent of the damages with headstones pushed over and some even cracked in two. </p> <p>Two 15-year-olds and a 17-year-old all from Toowoomba have been dealt with under the provisions of the Youth Justice Act.</p> <p>“Police would like to thank members of the community for their assistance,” Queensland Police said in a statement.</p> <p>Councillors on the Toowoomba Regional Council have condemned the alleged acts of wilful damage. </p> <p>"If you are the person so angry at society that this sounded like a good idea, there are many other ways to vent frustration than this," Councillor Tim McMahon said.</p> <p>State MP David Janetzki also expressed his concern over the damages caused. </p> <p>"For criminals to target the sacred resting place of our community's departed loved ones is unforgivable," Janetki wrote on Facebook.</p> <p>Toowoomba Region Mayor, Geoff McDonald condemned the vandalism saying: “What occurred at Drayton and Toowoomba Cemetery on Friday night August 9 is simply disgraceful, disappointing and disgusting." </p> <p>“Such criminal acts of disrespect not only undermine the sanctity of a place meant for remembrance and reflection, but also inflict deep emotional pain on the families of those interred.</p> <p>“Memorial headstones serve as a tribute to loved ones, and their destruction is an affront to the memories they represent.”</p> <p>He added that council workers are cleaning up the damage and repairing the gravestones. </p> <p><em>Images: Cemetery Tours Toowoomba</em></p>

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"Take it back to her”: Parents' heartbroken plea to thieves who targeted their daughter's grave

<p>When three-year-old Brittany Conway died after swelling a button battery, news of her death made headlines and prompted urgent warnings to parents everywhere. </p> <p>Now, just one month out from the four-year anniversary of Brittany's death, her parents are grieving all over again after their daughter's grave was targeted by callous thieves, who took off with a "precious" keepsake. </p> <p>“She was a vivacious little girl, there was a sparkle in her eye,” Brittany’s mother Lorraine told <a href="https://7news.com.au/news/our-little-princess-parents-anguish-after-precious-item-stolen-from-childs-grave-c-15205766" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><em>7News</em></a>. “She was a very loving, gentle, funny character.”</p> <p>Brittany’s love of tiaras was immortalised when one was placed inside a locked glass-front box attached to her grave.</p> <p>“Brittany loved wearing big bows and pretty dresses, she loved the tiaras and high heels,” Lorraine said.</p> <p>“We just wanted her to know she was our little princess.”</p> <p>Brittany's parents were heartbroken when they discovered that thieves had pried open the lockbox on the grave and stolen the tiara. </p> <p>“I was so angry to think someone had taken something so precious, taken it out of somewhere so sacred,” Lorraine said.</p> <p>The local Gold Coast community has rallied around the family, offering to replace the tiara and even reward money for the beloved item to be returned.</p> <p>Brittany’s parents are still hoping the tiara will be returned, and sharing a public message to the thief that they “did not hate them” for what they had done, but urged them to give the item back.</p> <p>“I’m still angry, I’m hurt, but my main thing now is to get (the tiara) home, and bring it back to Brittany where it belongs,” Lorraine said.</p> <p>“They haven’t thought about how much of an impact it has had on the family."</p> <p>“If you’re watching this, and you’ve taken it, I don’t hate you — just take it back to her.”</p> <p><em>Image credits: 7News</em></p>

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Sir Roger Moore's grave in Monaco vandalised

<p>The grave of Sir Roger Moore has been vandalised, with brazen thieves taking off with a large family crest that was featured on the late James Bond actor's headstone. </p> <p>The desecration was first noticed by a fan of Moore's, who said he stopped by the small exclusive cemetery in Monaco to see the former 007's resting place. </p> <p>As the man searched for the grave, he noticed Moore's headstone was set apart by the others after he realised a large family crest, which adorned all the other Moore family headstones, was missing. </p> <p>The fan posted pictures of the gravestone online, stirring up outrage among fans. </p> <p>He told <a href="https://www.tmz.com/2024/06/25/roger-moore-grave-site-vandalized-monaco-shield-stolen/?adid=social-tw" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><em>TMZ</em></a> he was outraged that someone would meddle with a grave, James Bond legend or not, as others echoed his sentiment. </p> <p>The fan said he was "equal parts shocked and p****d someone would desecrate any grave - but especially one belonging to the James Bond legend".</p> <p>One person wrote on X, "If this doesn’t shake you up, it should stir you up a bit… why would anybody vandalise Sir Roger Moore’s grave?"</p> <p>Another added, "So disrespectful! What a world."</p> <p>The iconic actor began playing the role of James Bond after Sean Connery in 1973 and played 007 in seven films across 12 years in the iconic franchise, making him the most prolific actor to play the role. </p> <p>Moore died in 2017 at the age of 89 after a lengthy battle with cancer.</p> <p><em>Image credits: X/Danjaq/Eon/Ua/Kobal</em></p>

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Grieving families targeted in callous gravesite robberies

<p>Four families in Victoria have been left devastated after the gravesites of their loved ones have been callously burgled. </p> <p>Maurice D'Alberti was visiting the grave of his son Adam at the Fawkner Memorial Park in North Melbourne when he noticed sentimental items had been taken. </p> <p>Adam passed away six years ago after a battle with cancer, and his father was visiting his son's resting place on what would've been his 10th birthday when he made the discovery that toy cars, along with an engraved ribbon and a photo of Adam were gone. </p> <p>"As a parent that's lost a child, we hang on to things, that they've touched, and things that they've loved," D'Alberti told <em><a href="https://www.9news.com.au/national/families-targeted-in-series-of-gravesite-robberies/39898523-e8cb-41c8-a5d5-2feb044492ba" target="_blank" rel="noopener">9News</a></em>.</p> <p>"You can't get any lower. He's already been robbed of his life and now he's been robbed of his possessions."</p> <p>At least three other graves had also been ransacked, with the families feeling "great distress" over the stolen items. </p> <p>Jake Maurici noticed that precious items had been taken from his father Vince's grave, and wants to see better security installed in the memorial park. </p> <p>Jake was devastated to learn that the brazen thieves had taken off with a football scarf and pins from his dad's grave, given their sentimental value to both him and his father as diehard Carlton fans. </p> <p>"Things I get emotional about, going to the footy with my dad... we did it when I was younger," he said.</p> <p>"Having stuff that was with him is what I remember him by."</p> <p>"I think the security needs to be improved...my mother comes here late at night," Maurici said.</p> <p>The families are calling on the culprits to do the right thing and return the stolen items.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Nine News</em></p>

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“Pray for my little man”: Community rally behind 10-year-old gravely injured in helicopter collision

<p>The extended community surrounding the Sydney boy and mum who were on board the <a href="https://www.oversixty.com.au/news/news/investigation-launched-after-helicopter-crash-sees-four-dead" target="_blank" rel="noopener">helicopter that crashed at Sea World</a> have come together in pray for the "precious little boy" and to mourn the loss of his mother.</p> <p>Nicholas Tadros, 10, was critically injured in the Gold Coast crash, while his mum Vanessa Tadros, 36, died.</p> <p>Vanessa Tadros’ sister-in-law, Bile Miloseska, wrote online on Wednesday morning that she had “an absolute broken heart” following the tragic accident.</p> <p>“On Monday we lost an absolute angel of a woman,” she said.</p> <p>“Our beautiful nephew, Nicky is in the ICU recovering from his injuries.”</p> <p>Miloseska asked family and friends to join her in praying for “total healing for this precious little boy”.</p> <p>A <a href="https://www.gofundme.com/f/vanessa-tadros" target="_blank" rel="noopener">GoFundMe</a> has been organised for the Tadros family, as it is understood Nicholas Tadros has had multiple operations.</p> <p>Rochelle Fajloun, a close friend of Vanessa Tadros, wrote that “Nicholas is critically injured and on life support as he fights for his life in a Gold Coast hospital, with his father by his side”.</p> <p>“We are praying for a miracle that our Nicky, (as he is playfully known) can be brought back to his grief stricken father Simon,” she said.</p> <p>“If by God’s grace Nicky survives his catastrophic injuries, he will have an intense and protracted recovery period. Please keep him in your prayers.</p> <p>Simon Tadros took to social media to thank those who have supported his family, asking that everyone continue to pray for his son.</p> <p>“I do ask that if everyone can please say a prayer for Nicky , so he can wake up and make a good recovery,” he said.</p> <p>“He is in an induced coma on a life support machine to help him breathe.</p> <p>“He is in a very serious and critical state.”</p> <p>He asked on a family friend’s social media post that everyone “pray for my little man”.</p> <p>“Pray that God will show some mercy and bring him back to me.”</p> <p>Friends and family have rallied around Simon and Nicholas Tadros, remembering Vanessa Tadros as a “beautfiul woman”.</p> <p>Norma-Marie Abboud said she was “so lost for words”.</p> <p>“Rest in peace beautiful angel.”</p> <p>The horrifying collision is still being investigated and Anyone who filmed the incident or saw it is urged to come forward to help ATSB investigators piece together what happened.</p> <p><em>Image: 7News</em></p>

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"I just went numb": Man recalls helicopter crash that gravely injured wife and stepson

<p>A father has recounted the horrifying moment he watched his wife and stepson plummet to the ground in a wrecked helicopter after a mid-air collision on the Gold Coast. </p> <p>Neil De Silva told the <a href="https://www.heraldsun.com.au/subscribe/news/1/?sourceCode=HSWEB_WRE170_a&amp;dest=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.heraldsun.com.au%2Fnews%2Fvictoria%2Fgeelong-mum-son-among-sea-world-chopper-casualties%2Fnews-story%2Fc3de255af1ae5ea3e8b5611b2eeae87c&amp;memtype=anonymous&amp;mode=premium&amp;v21=dynamic-high-control-score&amp;V21spcbehaviour=append" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Herald Sun</a> that he felt powerless to help as he watched his family collide with another helicopter at high speeds. </p> <p>“Winnie and Leon’s helicopter took off, it only went about 200 metres in the air,” Mr De Silva said.</p> <p>“I could see the other helicopter that was due to land … it looked like they were going to crash into one another."</p> <p>“As it got closer, I was thinking ‘this is crazy, this looks really bad’ and I just went numb”.</p> <p>After a pain-staking two hour wait, Neil was eventually informed that his wife Winnie, 33, and stepson Leon, 9, had survived the devastating crash, but had been rushed to hospital in critical condition. </p> <p><a href="https://oversixty.com.au/news/news/helicopter-crash-victims-identified" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Four others</a> on their flight were killed in the collision, while another young boy, 10, also remains critical in hospital. </p> <p>In a heart-wrenching twist to the De Silva's story, Neil revealed that the Geelong family were celebrating the end of a challenging year by treating themselves to a budget Gold Coast getaway. </p> <p>Mr De Silva shared that it had always been Winnie’s dream to take her son Leon on a chopper ride, so they decided to treat themselves to the adventure ride. </p> <p>“It was Winnie’s dream to take Leon on a helicopter,” Mr de Silva said.</p> <p>“I thought I would shout them a 10-minute flight."</p> <p>“We were on a budget holiday, trying to save money but I wanted them to have that experience.”</p> <p>Winnie remains critical but stable in the Gold Coast University Hospital with two broken legs, a damaged left knee, a broken right shoulder and a broken collarbone.</p> <p>Leon remains in a coma with facial and head injuries, a cracked skull and severe trauma to the brain in Brisbane’s Queensland Children’s Hospital.</p> <p>Mr De Silva has organised a<a title="www.gofundme.com" href="https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-winnie-leon-seaworld-crash-victims?qid=8e66b72e6929303fe5aef72a4eb79661"> GoFundMe</a> to support the family as he takes time off work to be by their side.</p> <p>Leon moved from Kenya to Australia about a year ago to be with Winnie, and his life Down Under was set to be full of new experiences.</p> <p>“This was his first helicopter flight,” he said. “Everything is a new experience for him.”</p> <p>“I feel blessed that Winnie and Leon survived."</p> <p>“Four people died — they are blessed to be alive.”</p> <p><em>Image credits: GoFundMe</em></p>

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Family learns they visited wrong gravestone for nearly 20 years

<p>A family from the UK have been left devastated after discovering they have been visiting the wrong grave for almost 20 years. </p> <p>The Bell family, who buried their familial patriarch Thomas back in 2005, regularly visited his gravestone at Holy Trinity cemetery in Wingate, County Durham, for 17 years.</p> <p>According to the <a href="https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-tees-63858303?at_bbc_team=editorial&amp;at_format=link&amp;at_medium=social&amp;at_link_type=web_link&amp;at_link_id=C514075C-74A5-11ED-997B-754D2152A482&amp;at_link_origin=BBC_News&amp;at_ptr_name=facebook_page&amp;at_campaign_type=owned&amp;at_campaign=Social_Flow&amp;fbclid=IwAR0hoRUkg38_Q-s8CoEe70ObHtrYX4-QbVvA7KH2hCTmcEd34a28BuYzfeI" target="_blank" rel="noopener">BBC</a>, it wasn't until Thomas' wife Hilda - who was due to be buried beside him - also died this year that the mix-up was discovered.</p> <p>The family discovered that a mix-up at the cemetery has seen Thomas's headstone been "placed on the wrong grave", due to "insufficient process" and "poor record keeping".</p> <p>An inquiry into the incident found "a perfect storm" of problems led to the crushing mistake, believed to be due to the human error of a stonemason.</p> <p>Bob Cooper, the Archdeacon of Sunderland, said that the error was a "great sadness" caused by a number of wrong protocols being followed.</p> <p>"The term 'a perfect storm' is used all too often in modern parlance, however on this occasion it seems particularly apt," Cooper said.</p> <p>"It cannot be guaranteed that historic cases like this will not reoccur because there will be gaps in the records for many reasons in parishes across the Diocese of Durham and further afield."</p> <p>A number of recommendations are set to be implemented within the parish to ensure the mix-up does not occur again.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Google Maps</em></p>

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"He can't eat anymore": Rolf Harris gravely ill

<p dir="ltr">Disgraced entertainer Rolf Harris is reportedly battling neck cancer and unable to eat or talk, as friends say he has declined since his release from prison.</p> <p dir="ltr">The 92-year-old, who was convicted on 12 counts of indecent assault against teenage girls, is being fed by a tube and lives with his wife of 64 years, Alwen Hughes, who has Alzheimer’s Disease.</p> <p dir="ltr">The couple are said to rarely leave their home in the village of Bray in Berkshire, about 50km outside of London.</p> <p dir="ltr">Neighbour Portia Wooderson told the <em>Daily Telegraph</em>: "Only carers and nurses, who care for him 24 hours, come and go. I'm told he can't eat anymore."</p> <p dir="ltr">William Merritt, a private investigator and author, told the Daily Mail that Harris was “gravely sick”.</p> <p dir="ltr">"[He's] battling a cancer of the neck, and gargles when he talks. It's difficult to understand him, but he is still the entertainer,” Mr Merritt said.</p> <p dir="ltr">"As soon as one of two people walk into the room, he turns into a big kid again. He's an artistic type, and he'll try to perform on cue, even when he's unwell."</p> <p dir="ltr">Harris was imprisoned in 2014 for five years and nine months but was released in 2017 on licence.</p> <p dir="ltr">Though he hasn’t spoken publicly since his release, the entertainer shared a statement in Rolf Harris: The Defence Team's Special Investigator Reveals the Truth Behind the Trials, a book recently released by Mr Merritt.</p> <p dir="ltr">"I understand we live in the post truth era and know few will want to know what really happened during the three criminal trials I faced – it's easier to condemn me and liken me to people like [Jimmy] Saville and [Gary] Glitter,” his statement read.</p> <p dir="ltr">"I was convicted of offences I did not commit in my first trial. That is not just my view but the view of the Court of Appeal who overturned one of my convictions. I had already served the prison sentence by the time of the appeal.</p> <p dir="ltr">"I changed my legal team after the first trial, and I was told that if the truth was out there, William [Merritt] would find it and he did. The evidence he found proved my innocence to two subsequent juries.</p> <p dir="ltr">"I'd be in prison serving a sentence for crimes I did not commit if it were not for William's investigation. It is difficult to put into words the injustice that I feel."</p> <p dir="ltr">Of the 12 convictions, one has since been overturned, though he was stripped of many of his honours in the wake of the charges, including his Order of Australia and British CBE.</p> <p><span id="docs-internal-guid-c1636182-7fff-552f-e9c0-f8f5ba63aa85"></span></p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Getty Images</em></p>

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Man who lost his wife two weeks ago barred from visiting grave

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A Sydney man has faced further grief after being stopped from visiting his wife’s grave due to COVID-19 restrictions.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">After Andy Gusmardy lost his wife two weeks ago, he has been visiting her grave everyday since as he mourns her death.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">But, when he arrived at Rookwood Cemetery on Thursday, he was told the site was off-limits to everyone save staff and those attending funerals.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height:281.53846153846155px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7843100/f3fc2487012e07392a9bd3d7719efb71c682d901-16x9-x0y0w1420h799.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/eb87e534ff5d467aa5123be5611cd955" /></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: 7NEWS</span></em></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“To be told, ‘sorry mate, Rookwood’s closed’ … where’s my process of grieving?” he told </span><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">7NEWS</span></em><span style="font-weight: 400;"> as he fought back tears.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I’m just so frustrated, angry.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“How can you get over losing your loved one?”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In a statement, the cemetery admitted that some funerals have exceeded the 10-person attendance limit, prompting the decision to close the site to everyone except funeral attendees and staff “in accordance with advice from NSW police”.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“NSW Police have also advised that visiting the grave of a loved one in the cemetery is not considered a reasonable excuse to leave home,” Rookwood Cemetery said in the statement.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Rookwood Cemetery operators are working closely with their Funeral Directors and key faith groups, such as the Lebanese Muslim Association, the Greek Orthodox Archdiocese and the Sydney Chevra Kadisha, to implement these new processes in a way that maintains safety and minimises impacts to internment services at Rookwood.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Security guards are now stationed at the cemetery’s entrances and police are known to patrol the area.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“We appreciate the wider community’s continued assistance and support as we navigate this challenging time together,” cemetery administrator Lee Shearer said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Though Gusmardy understands the need to restrict funeral attendees, he said it’s “crazy” for mourners to be turned away when visiting their loved ones.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“You’re going there, by yourself, to grieve,” he said.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The cemetery will review the current measures in four weeks.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: 7NEWS</span></em></p>

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Ben Roberts-Smith accused of making grave mistake

<p>Ben Roberts-Smith has been accused of wiping a laptop that could have held critical evidence.</p> <p>The Australian war hero is being accused as his courtroom showdown with <em>Nine</em> newspapers nears.</p> <p>Mr Roberts-Smith is suing <em>The Age</em> and <em>Sydney Morning Herald</em> over a series of incorrect reports that aired allegations relating to his deployment in Afghanistan.</p> <p>The highly decorated soldier has denied the allegations and is suing for defamation, claiming the reports falsely painted him as a war criminal.</p> <p><em>Nine</em> has said the network plans to vigorously defend the claim.</p> <p>Lyndelle Barnett, barrister for the newspaper, told the Federal Court that Mr Roberts-Smith had wiped a laptop just days after he was issued a notice to produce it.</p> <p>Mr Roberts-Smith’s lawyers have pushed back at the accusation however, saying there was nothing “sinister” in his actions.</p> <p>They told the court he deleted the information while he was in the process of buying a new computer.</p> <p>The court has also been told that the soldier buried a USB drive inside a pink children’s laptop in his backyard.</p> <p>It is alleged that the USB contained classified documents and videos that could relate to alleged war crimes.</p> <p>Mr Roberts-Smith removed the USB from his backyard in June last year, the court heard.</p> <p>When <em>Nine’s</em> lawyers produced a notice for Mr Roberts-Smith to produce the external drives, they were told that the information had been transferred to a computer.</p> <p>Ms Barnett told Justice Anthony Besanko late last week they had been informed that the computer had been wiped.</p> <p>“We then sought the laptop with a view to it being examined by an expert and were told on Friday night that the applicant has wiped the hard drive of that laptop very recently, on the 17th of April,” Ms Barnett said.</p> <p>“Nonetheless, we still press for production of the laptop.”</p> <p>“(The laptop being wiped) did occur five days after we wrote to the applicant to retain documents associated with the USB,” Ms Barnett would go on to say.</p> <p>“We are concerned about the hard drive having been wiped in those circumstances and (it is) something we wish to explore.”</p> <p>Mr Roberts-Smith’s barrister Bruce McClintock retaliated, saying that there was nothing nefarious about the computer being wiped clean.</p> <p>“There’s nothing sinister in what occurred,” Mr McClintock said.</p> <p>“My client was in the course of buying a new computer and trading in the old one. That’s the reason for these events.”</p> <p>He added that the USB was still in the possession of his instructing solicitor, adding that it could still be produced to <em>Nine’s</em> lawyers.</p> <p>He also said he consented to the laptop being turned over and examined.</p> <p>Barrister Joe Edwards said there would be sensitive information on the laptop’s hard drive and was working to have the matter resolved.</p> <p>Ms Barnett said they were anxious to have it examined prior to Mr Roberts-Smith case taking the stand.</p> <p>The newspaper articles that were published in 2018, had allegations that the former SAS corporal kicked a handcuffed Afghan civilian, Ali Jan, off a cliff in 2012.</p> <p>Mr Roberts-Smith’s lawyers on Tuesday told the court that journalist Nick McKenzie had deleted a recorded interview he’d had with Mr Jan’s wife.</p> <p>“There is a significant issue about the destruction of documents by the respondents,” Mr McClintock said.</p> <p>“We have not been told when these documents were destroyed. And while I don’t like these things to be done in a half-baked way, I do want to take this matter further.”</p> <p>Ms Barnett said the recordings which were made on an iPhone, were deleted months prior to the stories being published and before the defamation proceedings began.</p> <p>“We reject entirely that there’s anything nefarious about these documents … being deleted,” Ms Barnett said.</p> <p>“As I understand it, interviews with Ali Jan’s relatives were taken on an iPhone and sometimes videos might be started and stopped.</p> <p>“You might have one short video with nothing relevant. And those were the kinds of videos which were deleted.”</p> <p>The trial is scheduled to begin in Sydney on June 7.</p>

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Woolworths shopper's grave warning after $333 mistake

<p>A shopper has warned others about her concerning checkout experience at Woolworths, saying she was left “very disappointed” by the disturbing incident.</p> <p>NSW customer Tania took to Facebook to share her disbelief when she realised, she’d been charged $333 for an item that should have only cost her $17.</p> <p>She said she had only realised the grave error when the checkout attendant told her that her total had come out to nearly $500 for just three bags of groceries.</p> <p>“When I went to pay the cashier said to me that will be $471,” she explained.</p> <p>“My reply was no way those groceries cost that amount. She proceed with yes $471. I again replied no way there is something wrong,” she added.</p> <p>“I was ready to walk away and not pay leaving my groceries behind. She then proceeded to go back through the items.</p> <p>“I noticed straight away a deli item that had scanned at $333 dollars, which should have only been $17.”</p> <p>Tania maintains she should have received the incorrectly scanned item for free, but says she was “ignored”.</p> <p>“I was ignored. I repeated myself several times,” she continued.</p> <p>“Completely ignored as she had no idea what to do or say to me. I proceeded to front desk to raise the issue and was told sorry we have issues with some of the bar codes scanning.</p> <p>“I did not receive item for free, which I thought was a policy Woolworths honours, obviously not. I am just glad I questioned the price and didn’t pay for it without realising at the time.”</p> <p>Tania said it was a “quite stressful” situation for herself and others who were behind her, claiming they were “mortified”.</p> <p>Another Woolies customer took to the comments to reveal that his wife had also been charged $254.74 for three cabanossi sticks, after reading Tania’s posts.</p> <p>“Happened to wife yesterday, got item for free but still waiting for refund,” the shopper wrote, sharing an image of the receipt.</p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7840559/woolworths.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/a792223e50a140988f4842678e905e5d" /></p> <p><em>Image: Facebook</em></p> <p>A Woolworths representative has responded to the online post, agreeing Tania should have received the item for free.</p> <p>“We understand that this item should’ve been given to you free of charge,” the representative said.</p> <p>“We spoke to our Store Management team and they advised us that you’re able to receive the item in question free of charge, as per our Scanning Policy.</p> <p>“Next time you shop with us, please see our Store Manager who will be able to sort this out for you.”</p> <p>Woolworths also apologised for the incident, writing: “We take pride in offering our customers a great experience in our stores, and we’re disappointed this wasn’t the case on this occasion.</p> <p>“Technical errors such as this is rare, and we’re looking into what may have caused this. We are sorry for the inconvenience caused by this error.”</p>

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Mother gives grave warning after daughter loses leg

<p>A mother is urging parents to think again before they let their children near and around adult equipment after her own daughter lost her leg in a horrific lawnmower accident in August.</p> <p>Mum Sarah Reardon said her three-year-old daughter Abigail Reardon, is dealing with her new circumstances “far better than all the adults in her life” after she was reversed over by the mower in Franklin, Massachusetts.</p> <p>The horrifying accident took place on August 22 and resulted in extensive damage to Abigail’s left foot and leg. </p> <p>It left her needing an amputation from her mid-calf.</p> <p>Ms Reardon said the accident happened quickly. </p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7838231/baby-loses-leg-2.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/3ab4b3d15ae448858175ce9b20d1172b" /></p> <p>“She was out playing and the lawnmower was put into reverse and she was there,” the heartbroken mother told Boston 25 News.</p> <p>The driver of the ride-on mower has not been identified because what happened was an accident, she said.</p> <p>Abigail spent 16 days at the Hasbro Children’s Hospital in Providence. </p> <p>The little girl has undergone five surgeries and her mother said more surgeries are likely to come.</p> <p>Ms Reardon aid she had an “amazing, determined, resilient little spirit”.</p> <p>“Abby lost her left foot and leg up to the middle of her calf, endured plastic reconstructive surgery, has significant soft tissue injuries to recover from, and is fighting bacterial and fungal infections from her wounds,” she wrote on a GoFundMe page.</p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7838232/baby-loses-leg-1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/7f7598eb86a447d78768670d345f38d9" /></p> <p>Her mum also said she faces ongoing issues, including requiring medications, and “will need many prosthetic leg fittings over the course of the next 15+ years, or until she’s done growing”.</p> <p>“As the bones in her amputated leg grow, it’s likely the skin won’t stretch fast enough to keep up, so she’s expected to go through many procedures to ‘shorten the bone’ as she grows.”</p> <p>The mum said the accident was also witnessed by Abigail’s older sister Alexa. </p> <p>She has also expressed she wants said Alexa to begin counselling to help her understand the accident.</p> <p>Ms Reardon said she wants parents to be aware of the dangers of ride-on mowers. </p> <p>“They’re obviously very dangerous machines,” she said. </p> <p>“I’ve learned way more statistics than I wanted to about what happens to over 9000 children a year.”</p> <p>Ms Reardon was citing statistics from the American Academy of Paediatrics. </p> <p>AAoP advises children be kept indoors while ride-on mowers are in use.</p> <p>A GoFundMe page has been set up to help Abigail’s family pay for medical costs.</p>

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"Gravely ill": Sam Armytage shares why she hasn't been on Sunrise

<div class="post_body_wrapper"> <div class="post_body"> <div class="body_text "> <p>Samantha Armytage left her fans heartbroken as she revealed her reasons for her absence on air.</p> <p>She explained to <em>Sunrise</em> viewers and co-host David Koch that both of her parents are currently in the hospital, with her mother Libby being "gravely ill" with heart failure.</p> <p>Her father Mac also suffered a stroke recently.</p> <p>“Mum has an auto-immune disease, she has had it for about 15 years, and it’s attacking her heart now,” Armytage explained live on air.</p> <p>“Then on the way out the door to visit mum at the hospital, dad collapsed... he’s had a stroke and is in rehab now.”</p> <p>“Thank God he was in Sydney at my place so we got him straight in the ambulance.”</p> <p>Armytage explained her father “has got a bit of paralysis on his left side” but “is a tough old bugger, so he’s getting there.”</p> <p>“So I’ve got two of them in hospital, but at least they’re in the same hospital now, so it’s a bit more manageable.”</p> <p>“So that’s where I have been... not on holidays!” she joked.</p> <p>She also shared the news on her Instagram, urging her fans to hug their parents while they still could.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CDvqHYtnAj0/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CDvqHYtnAj0/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">As some of you may know, my mum Libby has been gravely ill for a while (she has an autoimmune disease which has resulted in heart failure) &amp; on his way to visit her in hospital ten days ago, my dad Mac collapsed after having a stroke. Luckily he wasn’t out the back of Wagga in a paddock as he probably wouldn’t be here to tell the tale. He’s a tough old buggar &amp; he’s in rehab, frustrated but determined. And giving plenty of cheek to his long- suffering, wonderful nurses. Mum has stabilised too &amp; despite having both of them in hospital (with the added pressure of the totally necessary Corona-related-visitor restrictions) now I’m heading back to work tomorrow morning. To anyone out there with loved ones in the hospital right now or anyone out there near your parents right now, give them a hug for me. Now, can 2020 just p*ss off already xx</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/sam_armytage/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank"> Samantha Armytage ⭐️</a> (@sam_armytage) on Aug 11, 2020 at 2:51am PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>"To anyone out there with loved ones in the hospital right now or anyone out there near your parents right now, give them a hug for me," she wrote.</p> <p>"Now, can 2020 just p**s off already xx".</p> </div> </div> </div>

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Sarah Ristevski stands alone in support of killer father Borce

<p>Sarah Ristevski, the only daughter of Borce and Karen Ristevski has never wavered in support of her father, despite what he’s done to her mother.</p> <p>Borce killed Karen, discarded her body in bushland and lied to his family about his involvement in her passing.</p> <p>Sarah’s support did not waver even when Borce admitted to killing Karen.</p> <p>However, her never-ending support has her on the outside of a family who’s struggling to come to terms with what Borce has done.</p> <p>The split was evident when Sarah walked out of court alone.</p> <p>Court of Appeal Chief Justice Anne Ferguson told the court that Borce would not be free until 2027 at the earliest, and Sarah didn’t even flinch.</p> <p>Borce, however, turned red as the decision was read out.</p> <p>In a revealing character reference that was read at Borce’s sentencing in March, Sarah wrote about the bond that her and her father have.</p> <p>“I visited him every week and talked to him on the phone at least twice a day since his arrest in December 2017,” she wrote.</p> <p>“If I could use a few words to describe my dad’s personality they would be loving, caring, sympathetic, protective and charismatic,” she wrote.</p> <p>“When I was really young dad would get me up every morning and make sure I was ready for school. He did my hair, ironed my uniform and packed my lunch before driving me to and from school every day. He drove me to all of my extra-curricular activities and stayed to watch all of my sport activities even though I wasn’t very good.”</p> <p>Other family members feel differently.</p> <p>Karen’s aunt Patricia Gray and her cousin Nevada Knight avoided court on Friday and told an earlier hearing that they’d lost all respect for the man who took Karen’s life.</p> <p>Knight told the Victorian Supreme Court that she lost 15kgs by “going days and weeks without being able to move” after Karen went missing.</p> <p>“I would vomit every time I moved,” she said.</p> <p>She also spoke about what Borce said to her at Karen’s funeral.</p> <p>“I hugged him standing over her body at her gravesite where he whispered, ‘Thankyou for coming, your support means a lot’.”</p> <p>Knight made her fury towards Borce known, saying that he was not remorseful for what he’d done.</p> <p>“You’ve had almost three years to come forward. That’s not remorse. That’s selfishness.”</p> <p><em>Hero image credit: <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/law-order/prosecutors-fight-for-longer-sentence-for-wife-killer-borce-ristevski/news-story/9792975f4374b7971b40cba00f2503d3" target="_blank">Herald Sun</a></em></p>

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Helena Bonham Carter uses psychic to contact Princess Margaret for acting tips from beyond the grave

<p>Actress Helena Bonham Carter has revealed that she’s reached out to Princess Margaret via a psychic to ask for her permission to play her in Netflix’s show<span> </span><em>The Crown</em>.</p> <p>Princess Margaret passed away at the age of 71 back in 2002, so Bonham Carter thought that it would only be right to reach out and get permission before she went forth playing the lady herself.</p> <p>“She said, apparently, she was glad it was me,” Bonham Carter, 53, revealed at <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.gloucestershirelive.co.uk/whats-on/whats-on-news/helena-bonham-carter-tells-cheltenham-3398590" target="_blank">a sold-out session at the Cheltenham Literary Festival</a> on October 5.</p> <p>“When you play someone real, you really want their blessing because you do have a responsibility.</p> <p>“I asked her, ‘Are you OK with me playing you?’ And she said, ‘You’re better than the other actress that they were thinking of.’</p> <p>“That made me think maybe she is here because it’s a really classic Margaret thing to say – she is really good at complimenting you and putting you down at the same time.”</p> <p>Reaching out to someone from beyond the grave is nothing new for Bonham Carter as she always talks to a psychic when playing a real person who has passed away.</p> <p>The Queen’s younger sister also included some rules for Bonham Carter to follow.</p> <p>She said, “You’re going to have to brush up and be more groomed and neater.”</p> <p>Bonham Carter has been excited to play the role for a while, as Princess Margaret is known in a “one dimensional” way by the public.</p> <p>“Everyone has such a particular idea of Margaret. It’s very daunting and I don’t really look like her,” she told <em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/politics/helena-bonham-carter-known-vulnerable-tricky-combination/" target="_blank">The Telegraph</a> </em>in December 2018.</p> <p>“But like the Queen, no one really knows what they’re like privately, so you can make your own choices.”</p> <p>She also confirmed that she researched for the role by talking to people who knew her closely, including relatives and three former ladies-in-waiting.</p> <p>“They really loved her, and when you go to the inner circle of people … they were very happy to talk about her because they miss her,” she said.</p> <p>“I felt very lucky to suddenly be the receptacle of all these stories. I think, for a lot of the friends, they are so tired with her being portrayed in a one-dimensional, very bitchy understanding of her.”</p>

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"Protect yourself": Michael Clarke's grave warning after health scare

<p>Aussie cricket legend Michael Clarke has urged people to be careful when they’re under the sun after he had surgery to remove skin cancer from his forehead.</p> <p>The former Aussie test cricket captain posted a photo on Instagram that showed the stitches from his surgery.</p> <p>"Another day, another skin cancer cut out of my face... youngsters out there make sure you are doing all the right things to protect yourself from the sun," Clarke wrote on his Instagram page.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B2FrqQNJ5c4/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B2FrqQNJ5c4/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">Another day, another skin cancer cut out of my face... youngsters out there make sure you are doing all the right things to protect yourself from the sun ☀️🕶🎩</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/michaelclarkeofficial/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank"> Michael Clarke</a> (@michaelclarkeofficial) on Sep 6, 2019 at 4:49pm PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>Australian swimmer Grant Hackett was among many to comment on Clarke's post.</p> <p>"You have made me book an appointment bro," Hackett wrote.</p> <p>Former Miss World Australia, Erin Holland, also commented on the post.</p> <p>"Awesome message MC.. We need to be so vigilent [sic]," she wrote.</p> <p>Clarke's wife Kyly also commented on the sportsman's post, sharing two "fist pump" emojis.</p> <p>Clarke was first diagnosed with skin cancer back in 2006 and has been an ambassador for the Cancer Council since 2010.</p> <p>As Australia has one of the highest rates of skin cancer in the world, many Aussies aren’t as vigilant as they should be when it comes to staying safe in the sun.</p> <p>According to the Cancer Council, 1,960 people died from skin cancer in Australia in 2016.</p>

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WWII Digger's Great Escape

<p>A khaki felt army cap has sat on a bookshelf in my home in Sydney for nine years.</p> <p>Two metal press-studs secure the brim, and the five-pointed, red communist star graces the front.</p> <p>The crown has the faint odour of human sweat.</p> <p>It is a partizanka, a cap worn by Yugoslav Partisan soldiers in Croatia and western Bosnia during World War II.</p> <p>The partizanka is something of a collector’s piece, as few like it remain.</p> <p>For me, it represents a promise I need to fulfil.</p> <p><strong>Partisan Promise</strong></p> <p>It is impossible to look at the cap and not wonder about its bloody history.</p> <p>It had two rightful owners, Boris Puks*, a Croatian Partisan fighter, and Ernest ‘Ern’ Brough, a World War II veteran from Geelong, Victoria, who gave it to me in 2009.</p> <p>My part in its history is a small footnote compared to the life it once led in the mountains and forests of wartime Yugoslavia.</p> <p>The cap arrived in the post not long after I met Ern, accompanied by a note: “Marc - a gift to me from Puks Boris, 1944, at Cassma, Croatia.”</p> <p>When I phoned Ern to thank him, he made me promise to give it to the Australian War Memorial when he died.</p> <p>This artefact now belongs where Ern had intended.</p> <p>The voices of World War II are fast disappearing and as Ern is still alive, I want him to have the chance to once again share his story.</p> <p>* Boris Puks is called Puks Boris in Ernest Brough’s book, Dangerous Days.</p> <p><strong>A Great Adventure</strong></p> <p>Six weeks after Ern turned 20, on March 28, 1940, he enlisted in the Second Australian Imperial Force.</p> <p>This apprentice butcher from Drouin, in rural Victoria, had very little life experience behind him, but the Army deployed him to Libya to protect the besieged port of Tobruk.</p> <p>He arrived in May 1941.</p> <p>“It was a case of keeping ’em out. Don’t let ’em in, that’s it. Fight for your life,” he said later.</p> <p>Following nearly three months of relentless battle, Ern was wounded by German machine-gun fire during a patrol.</p> <p>He recovered and was then sent to Egypt to fight in the pivotal Battle of El Alamein. Captured by German forces, Ern spent time in a POW camp in Italy before eventually ending up in Stalag XVIII-A/Z, a notorious Nazi POW camp in Austria.</p> <p>After two years, along with fellow Australian Sergeant Arnold ‘Allan’ Berry, and New Zealander Private Eric Baty, he escaped from an Arbeitskommando (prison farm camp) near Graz and spent two months on a desperate flight through first Austria, and then Slovenia, Croatia and Bosnia.</p> <p><strong>A Story Revealed</strong></p> <p>Ern offered me Puks’s cap during our first interview in 2009.</p> <p>I had seen a photograph of it in his book and was taken by its historical significance. </p> <p>I knew that he treasured the partizanka cap and had proudly showed it to mates at his local RSL club.</p> <p>Ern appreciated my knowledge of the place where he spent the final months of World War II.</p> <p>“I reckon you can use it more than me, now,” he said.</p> <p>I was reluctant to accept Ern’s cherished cap, but he sent it to me soon afterwards.</p> <p>Now, nine years later, I hoped to return the cap to Ern and see about giving it to the Australian War Memorial.</p> <p>I call the phone number in Geelong that I’d dialled years earlier. After a few rings, a man answers. It’s Ern, who confirms he is very much alive.</p> <p>We arrange for me to interview him two days later. Not long after, Lizzie Campbell, Ern’s carer, calls me to check who I am.</p> <p>Ern has no problem remembering the cap, but he can’t remember giving it to me. These days, Lizzie explains, such memories can elude him.</p> <p>When I call him back as planned, Ern has had time to flick through his book.</p> <p>Details of his time in Tobruk and Croatia are clearer. “How the hell did we ever get through it?” he asks me in a wavering voice.</p> <p>While in Tobruk, fear wasn’t part of Ern’s thinking “A lot of them used to sweat it out,” he recalls. “They had a terrible time. I didn’t care. I was walking around as if I owned the place.”</p> <p>When I press him for more information about the cap and ­Boris Puks, his memory is sketchy. Ern remembers that the cap belonged to Puks, that he was a Croatian Partisan and that Puks gave him the cap as a gesture of thanks.</p> <p>That’s where it stops.</p> <p>“No, I don’t remember,” he tells me.</p> <p>“When you’re young, you learn something and you shove it aside.”</p> <p>More questions about the cap eventually jog his memory.</p> <p>“I used to put a big white turkey feather in it,” he says with a laugh.</p> <p><strong>After the War</strong></p> <p>After the war, Ern returned to country Victoria and resumed work as a butcher.</p> <p>They were difficult times. Shell-shocked and damaged, adjusting to peacetime wasn’t easy.</p> <p>He felt “wild on the inside” and at times resorted to fighting and drinking.</p> <p>“Allan, Eric and I had lived like dogs,” he writes in Dangerous Days.</p> <p>“Every day had been a dangerous day, every shadow a possible predator. We survived on instinct, so it was always going to be difficult to slip back into a civilised world.”</p> <p>Getting the images of war out of his head was hard and Ern believes he suffered from PTSD.</p> <p>He tells me about a time on a train to Melbourne when he attacked a man who had tried to scrounge the last of his tobacco.</p> <p>It took four other men to restrain him. He was also plagued by nightmares and one time woke to find himself trying to throttle his beloved wife, Edna May.</p> <p>Puks wrote to Ern several times and was interested in emigrating to Australia, but Puks was a communist, so the authorities kept an eye on the letters Ern received, placing him under surveillance for six years. ­</p> <p>Anti-communist sentiment was strong at the time.</p> <p>When Ern discovered his movements were being monitored, he was outraged but realised it was safer to end their correspondence.</p> <p><strong>A Promise fulfilled</strong></p> <p>Ever aware of my promise, I call the Australian War Memorial in Canberra to ask about donating the cap to its collection. They are keenly interested in Ern’s story – and the rare artefact – so decide to fly Ern and Lizzie to Canberra and appropriately recognise his donation.</p> <p>On February 6 this year, on a hot, dry Canberra morning, I arrived at the Australian War Memorial ready to hand over the cap to Ern.</p> <p>Frailer than when we last met, he still has that sparkle in his eyes and an easy laugh.</p> <p>In the Commemorative Courtyard before the Pool of Reflection, surrounded by the Roll of Honour commemorating the more than 102,000 Australians who have died in war, Sergeant Ernest James Brough of the 2nd/32nd Infantry Battalion presented the cap to Brendan Nelson, the director of the Australian War Memorial.</p> <p>“People will look at the cap and realise that a Partisan risked his own life and safety to help this Australian escape,” Nelson says.</p> <p>“And at the end he gave his cap to Ern. It will make people ask, ‘Why did he do that?’ Thanks to this simple gesture, the memorial now has an important artefact that tells Ern’s inspirational story of survival and mateship.”</p> <p>Across the courtyard, a group of 18 soldiers are practising a drill. Nelson calls them over and introduces them to Ern, the former POW and Rat of ­Tobruk.</p> <p>Each one eagerly approaches the old man to shake his hand. It is a moving moment. Young soldiers paying respect to a frail, decorated war hero from their own defence history.</p> <p>Ern visited Eric Baty in New Zealand 46 years after their escape. They talked about the time the Partisan attacked his brother and how Ern had stopped Eric from getting involved.</p> <p>“Eric thanked me for saving his life that time,” Ern told me in 2009. “They would have shot him for sure. But I said, ‘No, Eric, it’s me who must thank you for saving my life in the river.’ ”</p> <p>It took Ern more than 60 years to bring himself to write about his war experiences. He comes from a generation who were taught to be stoic but reticent in the face of misfortune.</p> <p>Writer Kim Kelly worked closely with Ern, talking with him every day for a month to research his memoir.</p> <p>She found that he did not want to talk about what happened when he returned to Australia.</p> <p>“The idea of PTSD was not talked about in his day,” she explains.</p> <p>“They used alcohol instead. Today, he is clear-sighted about it and believes returned soldiers need a story debrief about their war experiences, such as writing it down or speaking into a microphone.”</p> <p><strong>Ern's story</strong></p> <p>It helped Ern to be able to tell his war story.</p> <p>“He believed going to war was important and why Australia went to war was important, but Ern is still anti-war,” says Kim.</p> <p>“He thinks war makes no sense.” Ern remains close to her heart - Kim last visited Ern in Geelong last September.</p> <p>Today Ern lives alone. Lizzie visits most days and he keeps active tending oak trees in his garden. Most of his mates from the war have gone.</p> <p>Allan died in 1985, aged 67. Eric died in 1999, aged 80. Edna May, Ern’s wife of more than 60 years, in 2004. She was 81.</p> <p>Ern was so grateful for the treatment she received at Melbourne’s St Vincent’s Hospital that he sold his land and donated $300,000 towards buying an echocardiograph machine.</p> <p>“I keep saying to him that he has to get to 100,” says Lizzie. He is now the last surviving Rat of Tobruk in Geelong.</p> <p>When I handed the cap back to Ern in Canberra, he paused before handing it over to Nelson.</p> <p>I thought Ern was about to say what I was thinking – that it was more than a cap, that it is a symbol of the courageous people who fought against tyranny, a reminder of the debt owed to those who gave their lives to protect our freedoms. But no – to the delight of all present, Ern broke into the Australian Football League anthem, ‘Up There Cazaly’.</p> <p><strong><em>Up there Cazaly</em></strong></p> <p><strong><em>In there and fight</em></strong></p> <p><strong><em>Out there and at ’em</em></strong></p> <p><strong><em>Show ’em your might</em></strong></p> <p>Later he turned to me and said, “What a wonderful day it is.” Then a joyful expression spread across his face and he let out an uproarious laugh.</p> <p>The khaki partizanka cap that started life in the hands of a young Croatian resistance fighter and was gifted in friendship to an Australian POW escapee is now carefully preserved in the Second World War Galleries of the Australian War Memorial in Canberra.</p> <p><strong>History of the Partisan cap</strong></p> <p>The military side cap, or forage cap, that Boris Puks gave to Ernest Brough in 1944 was part of the Yugoslav Partisan uniform.</p> <p>It was called the triglavka in Slovenian and the partizanka in Croatian.</p> <p>The design was copied from the cap worn by Republican faction soldiers during the Spanish Civil War.</p> <p>A feature of the Yugoslav Partisan cap was the red communist star on the front.</p> <p>The first Yugoslav caps were made in 1941 in Zagreb for the communist People's Liberation Front of Croatia.</p> <p>In occupied Yugoslavia during World War II, this cap's use spread quickly throughout the Partisan resistance.</p> <p>The Slovenian triglavka, adopted in 1942, had a three-pronged ridge along its crown, representing Triglav mountain, Slovenia's highest peak. Puks's cap is a partizanka, so it has a flatter crown and a folded brim at the back.</p> <p>In 1943, the partizanka and the triglavka were replaced by the titovka, or Tito cap, which was named after the Yugoslav communist resistance leader, Josip Broz Tito, and modelled on the Soviet army cap, the pilotka.</p> <p>After the war, the titovka became the official headwear of the Yugoslav People's Army, or JNA.</p> <p><em>Written by Marc McEvoy. This article first appeared in </em><a href="http://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/wwii-diggers-great-escape?items_per_page=All"><em>Reader’s Digest</em>.</a><em> For more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, </em><a href="http://readersdigest.innovations.com.au/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA93V"><em>here’s our best subscription offer.</em></a> </p> <p><img style="width: 100px !important; height: 100px !important;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7820640/1.png" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f30947086c8e47b89cb076eb5bb9b3e2" /></p>

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Gold-digger grandma steals $300,000 from Centrelink

<p style="text-align: left;">A grandmother from Geelong in Victoria has admitted to the crime of stealing close to $300,000 in taxpayers' money in the hopes to secure her dead partner's multi-million-dollar assets.</p> <p>76-year-old Noel Newling was proven guilty after discovering she had been giving false information to Centrelink regarding her relationship status.</p> <p>Since 1997, Newling had accumulated up to $287,000 from taxpayers while she was in a relationship with a wealthy man.</p> <p>Newling had no intention to admit to the crime, but after her deceased partner's will stated to give the majority of his $4 million assets to charity, Newling had no other choice as she hoped to overturn the legal document, reports <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.9now.com.au/a-current-affair/2018/extras/latest/181017/great-granny-gold-digger?ocid=social-9ACA" target="_blank"><em>A Current Affair</em></a>.</p> <p>The government was under the impression that Newling had been single for the past decade, but the truth was far from it.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" width="698" height="573" scrolling="no" id="molvideoplayer" title="MailOnline Embed Player" src="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/embed/video/1784460.html"></iframe></p> <p>The 76-year-old had been in a relationship with a man named Michael Stansfield, who happened to have accumulated quite a bit of money throughout his years.</p> <p>Mr Stansfield was a share trader and passed away in 2016. Newling’s late partner left her with $50,000, a $185,000 property and a $34,000 car.</p> <p>He then proceeded to distribute the rest of his wealth to different charities.</p> <p>Newling claims she was unaware of Mr Stansfield wealth, but once his earnings came to light, she attempted to challenge the will to obtain the money for herself.</p> <p>In order to do that, Newling had to admit to fraudulent behaviour in the Geelong County Court, otherwise her chance of acquiring the money was close to zero.</p> <p><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.geelongadvertiser.com.au/news/crime-court/geelong-court-leopold-greatgrandmother-noel-jennifer-newling-jailed-for-centrelink-rort/news-story/2874acc65c3489c39c5e2b11fe84604a" target="_blank"><em>The Geelong Advertiser</em></a> reported that, Judge Susan Cohen issued a sentence for Newling, and gave her two years and 10 months in prison but would be released in four months with a two-and-a-half-year good behaviour bond.</p> <p>Newling was faced with an influx of reporters outside court, where she said that she knew that her behaviour was wrong but gave the excuse that she “had to live".</p> <p>She has now been asked to repay the government for all the money she has taken over the years, something that Newling says can only be paid back once she has her late partner's estate.</p>

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