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Not quite an introvert or an extrovert? Maybe you’re an ambivert

<div class="theconversation-article-body"> <p><em><a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/peta-stapleton-10417">Peta Stapleton</a>, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/bond-university-863">Bond University</a></em></p> <p>Our personalities are generally thought to consist of <a href="https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-big-five-personality-traits">five primary factors</a>: openness to experience, conscientiousness, extroversion, agreeableness and neuroticism, with each of us ranking low to high for each.</p> <figure class="align-center "><img src="https://images.theconversation.com/files/596664/original/file-20240528-17-t4z3cu.png?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;fit=clip" sizes="(min-width: 1466px) 754px, (max-width: 599px) 100vw, (min-width: 600px) 600px, 237px" srcset="https://images.theconversation.com/files/596664/original/file-20240528-17-t4z3cu.png?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=427&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 600w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/596664/original/file-20240528-17-t4z3cu.png?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=427&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1200w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/596664/original/file-20240528-17-t4z3cu.png?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=427&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 1800w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/596664/original/file-20240528-17-t4z3cu.png?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=537&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 754w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/596664/original/file-20240528-17-t4z3cu.png?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=537&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1508w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/596664/original/file-20240528-17-t4z3cu.png?ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=537&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 2262w" alt="Graphic" /><figcaption><span class="caption">Extroversion is one of the Big Five personality traits.</span> <span class="attribution"><a class="source" href="https://www.shutterstock.com/image-vector/big-five-personality-traits-infographic-has-2197584463">Big 5 personality traits graphic</a></span></figcaption></figure> <p>Those who rank high in extroversion, known as extroverts, <a href="https://www.cell.com/heliyon/pdf/S2405-8440(20)30772-6.pdf">typically</a> focus on their external world. They tend to be more optimistic, recharge by socialising and enjoy social interaction.</p> <p>On the other end of the spectrum, introverts are more likely to be quiet, deep thinkers, who recharge by being alone and learn by observing (but aren’t necessarily shy).</p> <p>But what if you’re neither an introvert or extrovert – or you’re a bit of both? Another category might fit better: <a href="https://ijmra.in/v4i12/Doc/13.pdf">ambiverts</a>. They’re the middle of the spectrum and are also called “social introverts”.</p> <h2>What exactly is an ambivert?</h2> <p>The term ambivert <a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2006-01533-004">emerged</a> in 1923. While it was not <a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fh0071034">initially embraced</a> as part of the introvert-extrovert spectrum, more recent <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0956797617724435">research</a> <a href="https://doi.org/10.1002/jhbs.21868">suggests</a> ambiverts are a distinct category.</p> <p>Ambiverts exhibit traits of both extroverts and introverts, adapting their behaviour based on the situation. It may be that they socialise well but need solitude and rest to recharge, and they intuitively know when to do this.</p> <p>Ambiverts seems to have the following characteristics:</p> <ul> <li>good communication skills, as a listener and speaker</li> <li>ability to be a peacemaker if conflict occurs</li> <li>leadership and negotiation skills, especially in teams</li> <li>compassion and understanding for others.</li> </ul> <p>Some <a href="https://www.wsj.com/articles/not-an-introvert-not-an-extrovert-you-may-be-an-ambivert-1438013534">research suggests</a> ambiverts make up a significant portion of the population, with about <a href="https://www.today.com/health/winning-personality-advantages-being-ambivert-t70236">two-thirds</a> of people falling into <a href="https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/jhbs.21868">this category</a>.</p> <h2>What makes someone an ambivert?</h2> <p>Personality is thought to be 50% <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0306987721000311?via%3Dihub">inherited</a>, with the remaining being influenced by environmental factors and individual experiences.</p> <p><a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27918536/">Emerging research</a> has found physical locations of genes on chromosomes closely aligned with extroversion-introversion traits.</p> <p>So, chances are, if you are a blend of the two styles as an ambivert, one of your parents may be too.</p> <h2>What do ambiverts tend to be good at?</h2> <p>One area of research focus in recent decades has been personality type and job satisfaction. <a href="https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797612463706">One study</a> examined 340 introverts, extroverts and ambiverts in sales careers.</p> <p>It has always been thought extroverts were more successful with sales. However, the author found ambiverts were more influential and successful.</p> <p>They may have a sales advantage because of their ability to read the situation and modify their behaviour if they notice a customer is not interested, as they’re <a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23567176/">able to reflect and adapt</a>.</p> <h2>Ambiverts stress less than introverts</h2> <p>Generally, people lower in extroversion have higher stress levels. <a href="https://digitalcommons.unf.edu/honors/20/">One study</a> found introverts experience more stress than both ambiverts and extroverts.</p> <p>It <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7218023/">may be</a> that highly sensitive or introverted individuals are more susceptible to worry and stress due to being more perfectionistic.</p> <p>Ambiverts are adept at knowing when to be outgoing and when to be reflective, showcasing a high degree of situational awareness. This may contribute to their overall wellbeing because of how they handle stress.</p> <h2>What do ambiverts tend to struggle with?</h2> <p>Ambiverts may overextend themselves attempting to conform or fit in with many social settings. This is termed “<a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23567176/">overadaptation</a>” and may force ambiverts to feel uncomfortable and strained, ultimately resulting in stress or burnout.</p> <h2>But personality traits aren’t fixed</h2> <p>Regardless of where you sit on the scale of introversion through to extroversion, the reality is it may not be fixed. Different situations may be more comfortable for introverts to be social, and extroverts may be content with quieter moments.</p> <p>And there are also four other key personality traits – openness to experience, conscientiousness, agreeableness and neuroticism – which we all possess in varying levels, and are expressed in different ways, alongside our levels of extroversion.</p> <p>There is also <a href="https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.2017548118">evidence</a> our personality traits can change throughout our life spans are indeed open to change.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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Perfect home for the ultimate introvert

<p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">The perfect home for an introvert has hit the market for just $US339,000.</span></p> <p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Located in Wohoa Bay in Washington County, Maine, the tiny one-bedroom shack sitting on Duck Ledges Island boasts stunning views of the Atlantic Ocean from every direction.The lucky homeowner will have absolutely zero issues with neighbours (unless you count the local sea creatures) and has been dubbed the “world's loneliest home”.</span></p> <p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">One potential issue – although certainly not a deal-breaker – is that the bathroom is not actually located inside the cabin but is in fact situated a bit further from the main estate.</span></p> <p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Despite its diminutive size, the wooden cabin is actually a two-storey abode, with the living, kitchen and dining room all on the first level.</span></p> <p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">The bedroom is situated at the top which is accessed by a ladder, and has two beds, in the event you may have a guest.</span></p> <p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">“Duck Ledges Island, offered in its entirety. There is no better place to spend the weekend in the world!” the listing read.</span></p> <p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">“The ledges surrounding the island are loaded with seals for constant entertainment.</span></p> <p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">“As it has no trees, it offers views of nature that you can't find anywhere else.</span></p> <p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">“The cottage is well constructed and just a few feet from sand beaches on both sides.</span></p> <p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">“Good anchorage and good landing points at any tide. Mooring included adjacent to the island and just a short boat ride from Jonesport public marina or Addison facility.”</span></p> <p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"><em><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; background-color: transparent; font-weight: 400; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Images: Coldwell Banker Realty</span></em></p> <p><span id="docs-internal-guid-f94c2e9b-7fff-f904-7ff9-77295e127090"></span></p>

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Introvert or extrovert: What kind of traveller are you?

<p>Do you find bliss in big city lights, buzzing crowds and endless hustle and bustle?</p> <p>Or are you stimulated by the undisturbed, by the secluded corners and fleeting moments of peace? </p> <p>Introvert or extrovert: there’s a destination for you.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>London for Cornwall<br /></u></strong>Extrovert: <strong>London: </strong>Year round, London is an incredible city. It’s the heart of England in art, history, shopping and gastronomy. Incredibly diverse, the city is home to the London Eye, Borough Market, The Tate, Hyde Park and the Queen.<br /><strong>Cornwall</strong>: For those tired of the big-city chaos. This rugged coastal county is home to quaint harbour villages, towering cliffs, fresh produce and an english surf culture.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Rio De Janeiro for Morro de S</u></strong><strong><u>ão Paulo<br /></u></strong>Extrovert: <strong>Rio De Janeiro:</strong> Vibrant carnival parades and a general zest for life: Rio is a destination for the socialite. The city has no shortage of beaches, rolling hills, lively restaurants and samba.<br /><strong>Introvert: Morro de São Paulo: </strong>Located on Tinharé Island, this village is completely car free. The coastal town is known for its glorious palm fringed shores, surf breaks and local beach culture. </p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Tokyo for Tottori<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: Tokyo</strong>: This unique capital is buzzing with culture, fashion, incredible cuisine and scenic temples and shrines. Let’s be honest, there isn’t much to deter.<br /><strong>Introvert: Tottori</strong>: This picturesque seaside city is relatively untouched by tourists. It’s Japan’s least populated district and is buzzing with rock formations, temples, gardens and sand dunes.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Los Angeles and Yosemite<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: Los Angeles:</strong> This sunny Californian city is home to Paramount Pictures, Universal Studios, Hollywood and all things film industry. Head to LA to see what life is like for the stars.<br /><strong>Introvert: Yosemite:</strong> Sierra Nevada’s Yosemite National Park is known for its granite cliffs and sweeping valleys. Head to Yosemite for a scenic nature escape exploring waterfalls and mountainsides.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Paris for Epernay<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: Paris: </strong>Boulangerie breakfasts and bistro dinners. For some, Paris will always be the dream. Meandering cobblestone streets, incredible historic architecture, premier boutique shopping and a vibrant arts culture. It is, after all, the City of Light.<br /><strong>Introvert: Epernay:</strong> Of course Paris isn’t everyone’s <em>cafe au lait</em>. If champagne tasting, rolling vineyards, quaint villages and hidden castles are more your thing, head to Epernay.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Bali for Lombok<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: Bali: </strong>An Australian favourite; Bali is known for its rice paddies, beaches, and mountainous scenery.<br /><strong>Introvert: Lombok</strong>: If the chaos and inflated western prices of Bali don’t appeal, check out Lombok. This introvert paradise has similarly spectacular beaches and volcanic mountains, some (such as the Gili Islands) are motor vehicle-free. <br /><br /></p> <p><strong>New York City for Finger Lakes<br /></strong><strong>Extrovert: New York City:</strong> This thriving city is home to the famous Empire State Building, Central Park and Time Square. If you’re after a massive array of tourist experiences in a lively city, head to NYC.<br /><strong>Introvert: Finger Lakes:</strong> This New York region is known for its sweeping lakes, valleys and vineyards. It’s a great place to relax without the crowds whilst enjoying scenic state parks, wine country and some spectacular waterfalls.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Madrid for Porto<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: Madrid:</strong> Packed with a world-class arts culture, a rich history, mouthwatering tapas, gothic architecture and incredible shopping: this lively city is a destination for the extroverts.<br /><strong>Introvert: Porto: </strong>A quiet coastal city in Portugal’s North, Porto is a one hour flight from Madrid. It’s known for its narrow cobbled streets, port wine production, merchants’ houses and boutique cafes. Built for the introverts, Porto is a perfect balance of culture and quiet.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Kathmandu for Pokhara<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: Kathmandu: </strong>Kathmandu is the hub of Nepal. There are endless things to do and it’s the easiest and most accessible city in Nepal. It’s well worth the visit. <br /><strong>Introvert: Pokhara</strong>: As any capital city, Kathmandu can be chaotic. Head to Pokhara for waterfalls, spectacular scenery, clear lakes, hiking, caves and yoga retreats.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Rome for Tuscany<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: Rome: </strong>Cobbled streets and piazzas, ancient columns and architecture, a fascinating history and fantastic cuisine. And of course; gelato. This charming city is impossible not to fall in love with. <br /><strong>Introvert: Tuscany</strong>: Rome can be overwhelming for some. If you’re still after an authentic Italian experience, head to Tuscany. The picturesque region is overflowing with lush landscapes, wineries, enchanting architecture and Italian renaissance. It’s also home to the cobblestone streets and terracotta cafes of Florence.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Byron Bay for Brunswick Heads<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: Byron Bay:</strong> Famous for its incredible beaches, Byron Bay is a popular summer destination with Aussies and foreign visitors. Byron is also home to an animated local community, holding regular festivals and markets, and boasting great family orientated organisations such as The Farm.<br /><strong>Introvert: Brunswick Heads:</strong> Byron tends to get a little busy at the best of times. Only 15-minutes drive away is Brunswick Heads. The small beachside town boasts trendy cafes, boutique patisseries and lots of family friendly to-do’s. You can check out the highlights of Byron, but it serves as a great excuse to escape the crowds and explore secluded beaches, winding creeks and wildlife reserves. </p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Amsterdam for Utrecht<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: Amsterdam</strong>: This culture-packed capital is home to a massive array of museums and galleries, delightful architecture, a lively arts culture and some pretty incredible Dutch food. <br /><strong>Introvert: Utrecht</strong>: Previously titled <em>‘the happiest place in the world</em>’, Utrecht is only 40 minutes drive from Amsterdam. Less touristy than its counterpart, the city is laced with winding walkways and medieval architecture. The Old Town is also home to the famous two-level canals.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Haridwar for Rishikesh<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: Haridwar: </strong>This popular pilgrimage spot receives hundreds and thousands of tourists every year. It’s one of the central destinations for the Kumbh Mela (Holy Dip), and is full of heritage, charm, peaceful ashrams and a laid-back lifestyle.<br /><strong>Introvert: Rishikesh</strong>: Swap Haridwar for Rishikesh for a more relaxed getaway. The birthplace of yoga, Rishikesh is situated in the Himilayan foothills beside the Ganges and was a favourite destination of the Beatles.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Perisher and Thredbo for Charlotte Pass<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: Perisher or Thredbo: </strong>Skiing in NSW. Let’s be honest, we aren’t spoilt for choice. The hustle and bustle of Perisher and Thredbo consistently cater for the crowd-happy extroverts.<br /><strong>Introvert: Charlotte Pass: </strong>But if you’re dying to hit the slopes but hate the chaos of Friday Flat, check out Charlotte Pass. The snow village is Australia’s highest resort, and offers a quiet alternative to Thredbo/Perisher.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Mykonos for </u></strong><strong><u>Antiparos<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: </strong><strong>Mykonos</strong>: This picturesque coastal town is known for its lively summer parties and dance clubs.<br /><strong>Introvert: Antiparos</strong>: For a secluded alternative, head to Antiparos. This little island is accessible by ferry, so you won’t bump into too many crowds.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Machu Picchu for </u></strong><strong><u>Choquequirao<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: </strong><strong>Machu Picchu:</strong> This ancient Incan citadel is high (excuse the pun) on every extrovert bucket list. The historic site is situated in Peru’s Andes Mountains, and the city skeleton is famous for its intriguing architectural history and panoramic backdrop.<br /><strong>Introvert</strong>: <strong>Choquequirao</strong>: The crowds in Machu Picchu are conspicuous. Choquequirao sits a little lower, and is similar in both structure and history. It also tends to be much less crowded than its sister citadel, and still provides a rewarding hike.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Positano for Sant'Agnello<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: Positano</strong>: This vibrant cliffside town is one of the Amalfi Coast’s most well-known destinations. The steep streets are lined with lively cafes and shops, and during Summer tourists flock to the colourful village.<br /><strong>Introvert</strong>: <strong>Sant'Agnello</strong>: This beautiful antique town is a neighbour of Sorrento, and tends to accommodate those after a less touristy experience. It’s a perfect spot for the history buffs, and a great base for those keen to explore the Sorrento Coast. You can also score a B&amp;B in an authentic Sorrento lemon grove.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong><u>Bangkok for Chaing Mai<br /></u></strong><strong>Extrovert: Bangkok: </strong>Bangkok comes to life after dark especially when the city fills with night markets.<br /><strong>Introvert: Chaing Mai: </strong>This mountainous city is located in northern Thailand, and tends to be a little cooler than Bangkok. It’s famous for its beautiful natural scenery, relaxed living pace, calm temples and some of the best Thai food in the country. </p> <p> </p> <p><strong>Vienna for Salzburg<br /></strong><strong>Extrovert: Vienna: </strong>Check out the influence of residents Sigmund Freud, Gustav Klimt and Mozart, or get lost in the twists and turns of Vienna’s baroque style streets. Be it for art, culture, food or history; this haven of a city is well worth the visit.<br /><strong>Introvert</strong>: <strong>Salzburg: </strong>Home of the von Trapp family, the rolling hills and ornate palaces in Salzburg provide a serene alternative to Vienna. The city shares the magnificent architecture and culture of its counterpart, but on a much smaller and more accessible scale.</p>

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Introverts share these 6 special personality traits

<p>Introverts are too often slapped with the “loner” label, but if you are one – or know one – you’ll know that’s not quite true. Sure, they like to spend time alone, but they also rely on their small but close circle of loved ones.</p> <p>Here, we’re taking a look at the six personality traits shared by introverts that make them such special people.</p> <p><strong>1. Strong boundaries</strong></p> <p>Introverts respect the boundaries of others – and expect to have theirs respected in turn. These firm boundaries might make it a bit harder to break through and get to know them, but once they let you in, you might just find they’re one of the most interesting people you’ve ever met.</p> <p><strong>2. Loyalty</strong></p> <p>If you’re close with an introvert, chances are you’ll be close with them for life. Introverts choose their friends wisely and don’t waste time with people who don’t “get” them. If you’re one of the lucky chosen ones, rest assured that you can always depend on your introverted loved one – once they find that rare someone they click with, they don’t want to put that relationship in jeopardy.</p> <p><strong>3. Open-mindedness</strong></p> <p>Just because they like their own company doesn’t mean introverts aren’t willing to meet new people and try new things. They’re creative, imaginative, and always full of new ideas. In turn, they’re also receptive to the ideas of others, and always willing to give something a try at least once.</p> <p><strong>4. Level-headedness</strong></p> <p>The independent introvert doesn’t rely on the opinions of others to make decisions or judgements. Their self-reflective nature gives them the tools to weigh different options up rationally and logically. Going it alone comes at a price, though, and to avoid feeling stressed or overwhelmed in these situations, introverts often need to spend some time alone to reboot.</p> <p><strong>5. Values time</strong></p> <p>No one wants to waste time, but for an introvert, time is one of the most valuable resources. They hate wasting time with slow people or unnecessary tasks. Not only to their value their own time, but others too. As a result, they’re rarely late and become frustrated when others are.</p> <p><strong>6. Observant</strong></p> <p>Given their reserved nature, introverts learn a lot by observing those around them. They prefer to learn information and skills independently, by trial and error and by watching others, and the same can be said for their approach to making new friends. Because of this, they’re naturally empathic and always in-tune with the emotions of others.</p> <p>Tell us in the comments below, are you an introvert – or do you know one? Do you find these traits to be accurate?</p>

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12 signs you’re an extroverted introvert

<p>Do you have a love/hate relationship with other people in general? You might be an extroverted introvert.</p> <p>Online quizzes and HR personality indicators like to put us into clear, easy-to-read boxes.</p> <p>People think you must be either an "extrovert"; i.e. somebody that thrives being around others, or an "introvert", somebody who is best left alone. But not both.</p> <p>Extroverted introverts know that the way you prefer to interact with the world isn't fixed. It's a sliding scale, which you'll understand if the following 12 things resonate with you.</p> <p><strong>1. You're great with people</strong></p> <p>As an extroverted introvert, you know how to work a party.</p> <p>You can be charming and funny, and most people around you think you're a genuine extrovert; one who simply gets along with everybody.</p> <p><strong>2. Until you're not</strong></p> <p>Extroverted introverts reach a point in any social situation where they've had enough.</p> <p>While they may have been initially energised by the buzz of human interaction, a couple of hours of it and they're completely drained.</p> <p>They want only to be alone, not talking, so they can recharge.</p> <p><strong>3. You prefer one-on-one</strong></p> <p>Communication with another person one-on-one is usually the favourite type of interaction for an extroverted introvert.</p> <p>While they are great with people, they don't really like small talk – something they find too prominent in group situations.</p> <p>Extroverted introverts prefer to spend time with people they are really interested in and can have meaningful conversations with.</p> <p><strong>4. You have social anxiety</strong></p> <p>No matter how many times an extroverted introvert makes a great impression in a social situation, social anxiety always rears its head in the hours (or days) before the next time you're required to be "on" for a crowd.</p> <p>They know they'll enjoy it once they get there, but think about cancelling many times before they leave the house.</p> <p>Sometimes they even go out with friends not because they want to, but because they don't want to disappoint them.</p> <p><strong>5. You love being alone</strong></p> <p>Extroverted introverts don't understand anyone who is uncomfortable being alone.</p> <p>Sometimes an extroverted introvert will go an entire day without speaking to another human being and not think twice about it.</p> <p>They love being by themselves, and find being alone reading a book, watching a movie, or partaking in any other solitary pastime, extremely invigorating.</p> <p><strong>6. But still get lonely</strong></p> <p>Just because you're good on your own, doesn't mean it's always good for you.</p> <p>Extroverted introverts still get lonely when they cross the fine line between loving their alone time, and needing social interaction.</p> <p>It's often hard to know that you're lonely because you're so comfortable in your own space that you don't want to leave it.</p> <p><strong>7. You can meet anybody</strong></p> <p>Extroverted introverts are good at meeting others' parents, partners, girlfriends and boyfriends, bosses, you name it. They could even meet the Duchess of Cambridge and probably make her laugh.</p> <p>They're good at asking questions because they don't really like talking about themselves, but still manage to walk away knowing the person they were talking to thought they were the interesting one.</p> <p><strong>8. You find friendships that need maintenance exhausting</strong></p> <p>The ideal friend for an extroverted introvert is one that isn't demanding.</p> <p>Friendships that require work, like the kind that need constant attention and communication otherwise that friend gets needy, don't usually last long.</p> <p>Extroverted introverts are happier seeing each of their friends sporadically, and if months (or even years) go by between hang-outs, it's no big deal... you'll have more to catch up on anyway.</p> <p><strong>9. Sometimes you're bad at messaging</strong></p> <p>On any given day, an extroverted introvert might feel like complete solitude. That means no replying to messages and texts, and they'll only pick up the phone if they think it's important.</p> <p>Extroverted introverts can be bad at messaging, not because they don't want to talk to you, but because they don't want to talk to anyone.</p> <p><strong>10. You don't like compliments</strong></p> <p>Sure, extroverted introverts like making a good impression and want to be noticed.</p> <p>But when somebody actually gives them a compliment to affirm them, they get completely bashful and feel very uncomfortable.</p> <p>It's a strange oxymoron: like you want people both to look at you, and not look at you, at the same time.</p> <p><strong>11. You're happiest in cafes</strong></p> <p>An extroverted introvert loves being around people, but not necessarily engaging with them.</p> <p>Cafes are the prime spot for this: you can look around and see the hustle and bustle of life, and at the same time be removed from it.</p> <p>The result is one of those great situations whereby they feel like they're part of something, but there's no pressure.</p> <p><strong>12. You like going out, but then you want to ghost</strong></p> <p>Extroverted introverts do enjoy going out with friends and being social.</p> <p>Take them out drinking and dancing and they'll thrive on it, but there will come a point – and it'll happen like the switch of a light – where they'll just want to go home.</p> <p>Not because they're not having fun anymore, simply because they feel it's time to be silent.</p> <p>Naturally, their inclination is to ghost from these situations, because goodbyes leave them riddled with guilt.</p> <p><em>Written by Lee Suckling. First appeared on <a href="http://www.stuff.co.nz/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Stuff.co.nz</span></strong></a>.</em></p>

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Hidden images reveal how introverted you are

<p>If you ever suspected you were an introvert but need a little extra proof, this is it. While it might sometimes seem like a disadvantage to be an introvert, there are some surprising benefits. Those of us more content with our own company tend to be <a href="/health/mind/2016/08/top-traits-of-empathic-people/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">more empathic</span></strong></a> and our brains are actually <a href="http://www.jneurosci.org/content/32/50/18087.short" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">composed differently</span></strong></a> to our extroverted friends, meaning we have a greater capacity to interpret abstract images. That’s why, according to the creator of these optical illusions, only introverts can see the hidden object in these images.</p> <p>Can you? Flip through the gallery above to find out and share your results with us in the comments below.</p> <p><em>Source: Playbuzz</em></p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><a href="/health/mind/2016/08/top-traits-of-empathic-people/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>Top traits of empathic people</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="/health/mind/2016/08/why-you-should-stay-silent-more/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>4 reasons to keep silent more often</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="/health/mind/2016/08/why-it-is-important-to-take-some-time-out/"><strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Why it's important to take some time out</span></em></strong></a></p>

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The benefits of being an introvert

<p><em><strong>Sophie Scott is the national medical reporter for the ABC, in addition to being a prominent public speaker. Sophie has won numerous awards for excellence in journalism and is the author of two books,</strong></em><strong> Live a Longer Life</strong><em><strong> and</strong></em><strong> Roadtesting Happiness</strong><em><strong>.</strong></em></p> <p>​In a world that praises extroverts and being “outgoing”, where do those of us who are shy and introverted fit in?</p> <p>I grew up in a large, noisy extended family of women. Although I wouldn't describe myself as shy, I know what it's like to prefer to listen and observe, rather than always contributing.</p> <p>One of the biggest challenges in this noisy world is finding your own voice. And if you are shy, it can be hard to be heard, listened to and acknowledged over all the racket.</p> <p>But Harvard law school graduate and author Susan Cain says that's where the value of being an introvert comes. Her book <em>Quiet, The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking</em> became an international bestseller. In it, she argues that introverts have a wealth of hidden talent and that many highly successful people are in fact shy and introverted as well.</p> <p>"The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some, it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk," she writes. "Use your natural powers – of persistence, concentration, and insight – to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems, make art, think deeply."</p> <p>At a women in science discussion I hosted recently, the topic of feeling uncomfortable in the spotlight came up. The scientists told me that many of them feel much more at ease toiling away in their laboratories working on breakthroughs and cures, than standing in front of an audience bragging about their findings. In fact, three of the four brilliant women scientists on the panel that day told me they would describe themselves as introverts. And that they would much rather have been in the audience than up on the stage with me talking about the importance of women in science. But you would never have known it from the passionate, eloquent way the women spoke to the audience, that they were shy. What impressed me most was that they admitted to the audience that they were vulnerable, and that showing up and putting themselves out there, didn't come naturally.</p> <p>But here's the important point... they did it anyway. They got past the point when our emotions kick in, when our bodies react. You get that heart thumping and that sinking feeling in your stomach. But you keep going.</p> <p>What I learned from them that day is that when you are stepping outside your comfort zone, you don't have to be comfortable, you just have to show up, lean in and do your best. Give it your all, even if it doesn't come naturally.</p> <p>And I like Susan Cain's friendly reminder that whoever you are, bear in mind that appearance is not reality.</p> <p>"Some people act like extroverts, but the effort costs them energy, authenticity, and even physical health. Others seem aloof or self-contained, but their inner landscapes are rich and full of drama. So the next time you see a person with a composed face and a soft voice, remember that inside her mind she might be solving an equation, composing a sonnet, designing a hat. She might, that is, be deploying the powers of quiet."</p> <p>Her work underscores that there is vulnerability and even fragility in even the most 'successful' confident people. And to be truly happy, we need to accept our flaws as hard as that may be.</p> <p>How have you coped growing up an introvert, and what's helped you along the way? Share your thoughts in the comments below.</p> <p><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.sophiescott.com.au/" target="_blank">Click here</a></strong></span> to subscribe to Sophie Scott’s popular blog on health and happiness.</em></p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><a href="/health/mind/2016/07/the-health-benefits-of-being-nice/"><em><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">The health benefits of being nice</span></strong></em></a></p> <p><a href="/health/mind/2016/07/how-to-turn-a-bad-day-around-instantly/"><em><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">How to turn a bad day around instantly</span></strong></em></a></p> <p><a href="/health/mind/2016/02/how-to-say-no-to-anything/"><strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">How to say no to almost anything</span></em></strong></a></p>

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