The life-changing magic of making a mess
We're programmed from childhood to tidy our rooms, make our beds, keep our desks and our schoolbags neatly packed. Tidiness and organisation, we're told, reflects a calm and organised mind, allowing us to be more efficient, more productive, less stressed.
But is this really the case, or, as author of new book Messy: How to be Creative and Resilient in a Tidy-minded World Tim Harford argues, can being messy be of far more benefit than we think?
The trouble with tidiness is that, in excess, it becomes rigid, fragile and sterile. Harford's approach reveals how qualities like creativity, resilience and responsiveness can be nourished far more effectively with a bit of mess around, and that messiness lies at the core of how we innovate, how we achieve, how we reach each other, how we succeed.
Harford says his book is "a celebration of everything we can't quite tidy up - of creative disorder, unlikely partnerships, improvisation and of course, messy desks.
"We tend to be tidy-minded about a lot of things, we instinctively like structure and order. That's all very well if you're a librarian or bookkeeper, but all too often we try to over-prepare and over-organise in situations where we'd be better off tolerating a little mess."
"A few years ago two psychologists, Alex Haslam and Craig Knight, set up various 'ideal' office spaces and invited people to work in them to see how productive and happy they were. It turns out that most people aren't super minimalists; they like a little decoration in their office - a pot plant, say.
"But the main discovery Haslam and Knight made was that what really matters isn't how the office looks - it's who gets to decide it. When people had the power to control their spaces they were happy and productive. When researchers overrode their decisions they felt distracted and resentful.
"The lesson here is that office managers should just let people have more control over their own space, even if that means it gets a bit cluttered."
So how does the author of a book celebrating mess feel about Marie Kondo's bestseller The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organising?
Harford says he's actually a big fan, and they are in total agreement on one thing: there's no point trying to organise your way out of an overstuffed situation.
"If you have too much junk in your house then clever filing systems and pegboards won't really help you. Organisational systems, says, Marie Kondo, are a trap. I agree.
"But while Marie Kondo's radical minimalism works really well for your kitchen or sitting room, it doesn't automatically carry over to managing a project at work or your email inbox. It's not that it's wrong – it's just that it's not directly relevant. Can you really manage an inbox by keeping only the emails that spark joy? No: we're talking about a different kind of problem.
"And it's when you get into these areas of creative collaborative projects with a complex flow of information that I think my embrace of ambiguity, improvisation and, yes, plain old mess, can reap dividends."
Harford says researching the book was also a sharp shock to him as a parent.
"I realised I was depriving my children of the power to mess up their bedrooms - and that autonomy was much more important than a space that kept my inner neat-freak happy."
Is he then a neat person turned messy or has he always been more on the messy side?
"If you saw my kitchen or my bedroom, you'd say I was a neat person," says Harford. "But if you saw my desk you'd think it belonged to a different person - it's piled high with books and papers.
"One of the things I learned writing the book, though, was that there's a time and place for tidiness and for mess.
"In the kitchen I follow the familiar advice, 'a place for everything and everything in its place'. Works brilliantly for corkscrews and spices.
"But that plausible-sounding advice just doesn't work for the typical desk of the typical office worker. We have paper and digital documents, email and social media all pouring in over our physical and our digital desktop, and we have to make sense of this stuff.
"And it turns out that allowing some documents to pile up physically on your desk is often a more effective approach to sorting it than prematurely labelling it and filing it away before you really understand what it is - or even if you need to keep it at all. 'Piling' tends to beat 'filing' as a strategy for knowledge workers.
"Fortunately my wife is like me - she's tidy in the kitchen and she has a messy desk.
"Our children are, of course, wonderfully messy. But writing the book has helped me to realise that they need their autonomy and space to make a mess. I still make them hang up their coats and clear away their plates, but I don't make them tidy their room unless they ask for help with that.
"The freedom to own your own mess is important."
Five little ways to embrace messiness:
- When your child disrupts your plans with a crazy idea, try to embrace it rather than shut it down.
- Write down six daring options for your weekend and roll the dice.
- Don't use slides for your next presentation; speak spontaneously about one thing that truly matters.
- Next time you make a mistake, tell yourself it was your intention all along, and work with it.
- Allow yourself a physical space where you don't have to feel ashamed of the mess.
Written by Josie Steenhart. First appeared on Stuff.co.nz.
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