Bride sparks feud for banning her niece from her big day
A bride-to-be has sparked a feud for deciding to ban her sister’s “loud and distracting” toddler from her wedding ceremony, with the bride asking social media users for advice.
The bride was only weeks away from her intimate destination wedding, which included a guest list of only a few friends and close family.
After being met with a difficult decision, the bride took to Reddit to share how a massive family feud had erupted in the weeks before the big day.
“My sister is bringing her one-year-old toddler. The child is more than welcome — she’s part of the family and we want her there as part of the day,” she began.
“However, as she’s still very young (and very loud at times), I’ve asked that somebody takes her out during the ceremony if she’s being distracting, shouting and babbling loudly.”
“I know that this will probably happen as she’s constantly chatting loudly and is never quiet.”
“But it’s only for half an hour and she can be as loud as she likes for the rest of the day.”
“I just want everybody to be able to focus on the ceremony and I don’t want the distraction.”
The bride said she was worried about sounding selfish, but then admitted that she was allowed to be selfish on her big day, and wanted all eyes on her and the groom.
“We want everyone to be able to enjoy them and, to be honest, we want the guests’ attention focused on us,” she said.
However, after the bride told her sister of the plans, things didn’t go down well.
“My sister has told me I’m being an a****** for ‘excluding’ my niece from the ceremony and therefore by default ‘excluding’ my brother-in-law who will be the one to take her out,” the bride said.
“She says that I’m asking him and the one-year-old to go all that way just for the evening meal as they will miss the ceremony and that the toddler will most likely miss that too as it will be after bedtime.”
“I’ve told her that there’s a whole afternoon of relaxing things going on — photos, cake, a little walk outside and late lunch that they will be part of but apparently she’s still really annoyed with me.”
The bride says her sister is now “threatening” to attend the wedding alone, leaving her partner and their daughter at home.
“We’ve called her bluff and said if that’s what she wants to do then we understand,” she said.
“To be honest, she’s p***ing us off so much that we’d be fine with all three of them not coming at this point.”
“I don’t think that I’m asking anything unreasonable.”
“All I want is a peaceful, relaxed ceremony where we can all focus on what’s going on without a toddler babbling away.
“Also, to be honest, even if this WAS an unreasonable ask, surely as it’s my wedding day then it’s up to me? Isn’t it the one day of my life when I can do literally anything I want?”
The post was quickly met with hundreds of comments, with most people flocking to the bride’s defence.
One person wrote, “This is basic event etiquette, but it seems like sis cannot be relied on to follow basic etiquette - or even asked to do so without herself acting like a toddler.”
Another suggested: “Removing a disruptive baby from a formal event would be normal etiquette, but if you specifically had to ask in advance, I’ll guess she’s got a history of not doing so.”
“Your wedding, your rules. You could have gone completely child-free, all you asked was for the common courtesy of taking her outside if she got noisy.”
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