New mum admits she hates her baby’s name
A woman has asked for advice after admitting that she hates her new baby’s name and “can’t stand to say it out loud”.
The new mum took to Reddit to explain that she had given birth to a baby boy a month ago, and had been discussing potential names for her son with her boyfriend since she fell pregnant.
The mother explained that her partner “immediately bombarded” her with names “that he would name” their son, and many of them were family monikers.
She said that her boyfriend was keen to name the baby after either his grandfather or great-grandfather, whose names were Oliver and Chad.
“I HATE the name Chad,” she said. “We know a couple of Chads and they are not great people. I also don’t love the name Oliver but I’d rather that than Chad.”
The woman explained her partner was “very sentimental when it comes to anything in his life that has to do with his family”, while she was “not that sentimental”.
“He was adamant on the name Chad because it belonged to his dad’s grandpa, whom his dad never met due to him passing away in the war,” she said.
“I asked him to compromise and make Chad the middle name ‘cause I’d rather the name Oliver, his response was ‘maybe’ but in a tone that meant ‘no.’”
The woman went on to explain that she and her partner reached a stalemate in the name discussion and it wasn’t brought up again until their son was born.
The new mother said the couple planned on “waiting until she was relaxed and situated before they signed the birth certificate”, but when she went to sign it, she saw his name had been written as ‘Chad Beau Smith’ by her boyfriend.
“I had had no say in the name whatsoever, my partner had seen me bare-down and drugged up, going through the hardest experience of my life and gave me no say in what we name our son,” she said.
The woman was shocked and ended up arguing with her husband for about an hour or so but was so exhausted from the birth, she gave up and said “fine you win”.
“My boyfriend then smirked as he handed the birth certificate in. I was too tired to fight anymore. I felt like I just needed to focus on taking care of my new baby,” she said.
The mum said she has been avoiding saying his name and also hadn’t posted anything to social media because she “just hates the name”.
“I also now feel like I am disconnecting from my relationship with my partner because after all he watched me go through, I feel that I don’t matter,” she said.
“Am I overreacting?” she asked on Reddit.
The woman’s post quickly went viral on the platform, with people quick to side with the new mum.
“Your boyfriend is a bully, and he sucks. Names are a two yes, one no situation. He took advantage of you, and kept calling your little boy by his middle name. I’m enraged for you.” said one.
“Why are you with this person?” asked another.
“Have his name legally changed. Leave your husband. This is abuse,” said a third.
“This guy has no respect for you, you’re not overreacting, you’re under-reacting,” added another.
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