6 questions you HAVE to ask on a first date
Many people find first dates a bit nerve wracking. Often we are so caught up in our own nervousness that we can forget to ask the right sorts of questions about our date, and end up leaving feeling as though you didn’t really get to know them very well.
To help get the ball rolling, we’ve pulled together a list of go-to questions for you to ask on your first date. Not only will they help to get the conversation flowing, the answers to these questions will give you a great insight into what type of person you are sharing a table with.
What was it like for you growing up?
This is a great question to get your date chatting. Finding out what their relationship with their family is like, or discovering a shared history (“I’m from a farm too!”) can help to find common ground. For many people a love of family is an important factor in finding a mate, so if this is key for you, listen up to their answers.
What gave you a big laugh recently?
It might be a film, a friend, or a grandchild – but finding out whether you have a similar sense of humour is a great start to a potential relationship. After all, what you find funny others may not, so it pays to work out if you have the positive chemistry in this department.
What are you passionate about?
This really shows you what the person you are dating feels strongly about. You can again find some common ground here, if their passions are similar to yours. It might be painting, kids, travel, photography, charity work, cycling. Naturally you might be turned off if the response isn’t in line with what you believe in. But either way you can follow up with more questions about the passions that they reveal, and maybe even find yourself wanting to get involved too.
What sort of relationship are you looking for at the moment?
Sure it might be a bit direct for some people, but there’s no point dating someone who is looking to settle down when you just want a casual acquaintance to see films with. It is best to be honest upfront about both of your situations so that you can see if you are on the same page.
What would you do tomorrow if time and money are no object?
This is a fun question to find out about the other person’s sense of fun and adventure. They might say they would walk love to go on a cruise ship around the Caribbean, walk through galleries in Paris, do volunteer work in Africa or go and visit their grandkids who live far away. No matter what their response is, you will be able to find out if their goals and values are similar to yours.
How do you spend your weekend?
How people use their time off says a lot about them as a person. They may choose to catch up on sleep, do some volunteer work, coach their grandchild’s football team, or head to the markets. See if it sounds like something you would like to be doing and you’ll soon know if you are kindred spirits.