The three questions Barack Obama believes everyone should ask before marriage
The former White House communications director Dan Pfeiffer has revealed the wise relationship advice that Barack Obama shared with him while he was president.
In Pfeiffer’s new book, Yes, We (Still) Can, the author shares a deep conversation he had with his former boss on his last day on the job in 2015.
As they shared their plans for the future, Pfeiffer opened up about his girlfriend, hinting that the pair were getting serious.
“So are you guys moving together? This is the one, huh,” Obama asked Pfeiffer, in an excerpt that has been shared on Twitter.
Obama then shared some fatherly advice in the form of three questions he believes everyone should ask before getting married.
Barack Obama’s relationship advice to @danpfeiffer is better than 99% of the advice columns on the Internet. pic.twitter.com/AumDz0M8fY
— Amanda Litman (@amandalitman) June 22, 2018
“Here’s the advice I give everyone about marriage — is she someone you find interesting?” Pfeiffer says Obama asked him.
Pfeiffer admitted he was confused by the question, but then Obama explained: “You will spend more time with this person than anyone else for the rest of your life, and there is nothing more important than always wanting to hear what she has to say about things.”
Then Obama shared question number two: “Does she make you laugh?”
Then the former president revealed the final question Pfeifer should ask himself before proposing: “I don’t know if you want kids, but if you do, do you think she will be a good mom?”
Pfeifer was able to answer yes to all three of the crucial questions and then invited Obama to attend his wedding, which was one of four weddings the former president attended of couples who met through him and his work.
Both Michelle and Barack have been vocal about their strong bond with each other after 25 years of marriage.
In May, Michelle shared a photo from their 1992 wedding and explained how the couple are “still having fun”.
“Twenty-five years later, we’re still having fun, while also doing the hard work to build our partnership and support each other as individuals,” she wrote.
“I can’t imagine going on this wild ride with anybody else.”
Last October, Obama delivered a sweet video tribute to his wife while she was speaking at the Pennsylvania Conference for Women.
“I had to crash this party because today we have been married for 25 years,” Obama said in the video.
“The idea that you would put up with me for a quarter of a century is a remarkable testament to what a saintly, wonderful, patient person you are.”
“It was a lot easier for me to do it,” he added with a smile, “because the fact of the matter is that not only have you been an extraordinary partner, not only have you been a great friend, somebody who could always make me laugh, somebody who would always make sure that I was following what I thought was right, but you have also been an example to our daughters and to the entire country.”