The 2 words people in relationships don’t say enough
It takes no time at all to say a simple thank you to someone, and it feels good when someone says it to you. But why is it that many couples find themselves neither hearing nor saying it regularly?
Communication with a partner can at times become lazy, and we can assume that the way we feel about them is understood even though we haven’t said it in a while.
Feeling appreciated is something that we all crave. A simple thank you on a regular basis is much more valuable than giving gifts, and shows the receiver that you value what they do.
If we become too busy, stubborn or self-centred, it can be easy to think that we don’t have to say thank you. After all, maybe he or she is supposed to do that task. But does that not mean they still deserve to be acknowledged for it?
So often at home we expect our partner to do certain things. They are expected to mow the lawn, or take care of the washing – because it’s their job. Well if it is their job why not ‘pay’ them by giving a simple thank you for completing it?
When it comes to children and grandchildren, “thank you” can work wonders to transform your relationship. A great way to motivate them is to recognise when they are doing a good thing and show that you appreciate them by saying a simple thank you. By focusing on the positives rather than criticising, you will find their attitude becomes much more positive as well as your relationship as a result.
But don’t stop at just a day, or a week, of acknowledging your friends and family. It needs to be a consistent effort. Every single time they pass you the milk, pack away the laundry, or make you a coffee you need to say the two words – thank you.
There is another side to showing your appreciation, which goes beyond the verbal. It’s also important to know when to let things slide. It can be too easy to start laying the blame on others when things don’t go according to plan. This can lead to feelings of resentment, which can fester into deeper issues.
Instead, be the type of person who can see the bigger picture. See the issue from both sides and do your best to understand the other person’s needs too.
By purposefully finding things in your partner or family to acknowledge and appreciate, you will be setting yourself up for the cycle of gratitude to come full circle into your own life. And you will feel happier for it.